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#41 ·
sp/sx here.

1) How do you typically interact in a group?
I tend to go quiet because I don't feel like I have anything of value to contribute. It's like I missed the memo everyone else got on what it's okay to bring up or talk about.
Sometimes, when I do express myself, I feel like I'm still slightly out of sync with the rest of the group.
I remember, in college group photos where we decided it would be fun to pose a certain way, I was always the one that inadvertently did something wrong or goofy.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
Not really. This is something I miss having occasionally but then I think about having a community foisted on me and I have a kneejerk reaction of distaste. I don't really have this innate sense of brotherhood with people or whatever.

3) How many friends do you have?
Lots.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
A few, but I'm not really big on advocacy or making them an innate part of my identity. I support ethical behavior and try to emulate it to the best of my abilities and that's about it. I'm not a proselytizer at all.
On the other hand, I've gotten into some painful arguments with people I was close to when I discovered they held beliefs that I found personally distasteful. I kinda tend to dissolve into an emotional "How can you believe that, it's so wrong wrong wrong ah this hurts I can't even" mess when that happens.

5) How do you handle office politics?
They make me feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. I try to stay out of them and do my own thing. I've been lucky in that people don't usually try to fuck with me.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
I do my part if someone's delegated responsibility and if a project is not on track because people are slacking off, I try to do as much of it as possible on my own while feeling inwardly resentful and vowing internally that I'll never work with these people again if I can help it.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
No.
 
#42 ·
sx/sp

1) How do you typically interact in a group?
I tend to hang back and watch, unless a topic I'm passionate about comes up, or someone asks me a direct question.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
No, not really.

3) How many friends do you have?
Real friends? A handful. That consider me a friend? Lots. I don't disabuse them of the notion unless they're getting in my way.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
Political, yes. More interest in the way the system works (or should work) and the way certain issues fit into an ideological framework than in the outrage du jour.

5) How do you handle office politics?
Suss out the biggest gossip and stay on his/her good side. Observe who has real power and who has a title--be nice to the latter, make allies with the former.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
uuugghh. Somehow I usually wind up in charge, even if I don't get the credit for it, simply because I can't stand incompetence. If by some miracle I am not I hang back and work as much by myself as possible unless I have insight or input to offer.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
No.
 
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#43 ·
I'm not sure I'm social-last, but I'll give this a shot. Being a 4 makes things very confusing :\

1) How do you typically interact in a group?

I'm either oblivious to them or I'm usually the one on the side, never really fitting in. For example at work, there are a couple of tutors about my age that are more or less friends with each other, some more than others. I'm not really interested in blending in, nor do I feel like I can anyway. I'm more the one to come in, talk to a few when the opportunity presents itself, but that's it. If I like someone, I'll talk to them. If not, I'm doing perfectly fine on my own, combined with a little bitterness at my outsider status.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.

No. I'm not even sure what that means, to be honest. Abstractly, yes, I'm sure some people experience this intensely, but I view myself as more separate. It's just me, and the people I care about. I'm not really attuned to anything beyond that scope.

3) How many friends do you have?

About 3-4.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?

Yes and no. I'm very interested in history, past societies on an intellectual level. My utopian society class was one of the best I've ever taken. But when it comes to current events, I honestly can't keep up and don't really care to do so. It doesn't hold my attention, and I'm pretty much clueless when it comes to this stuff.

5) How do you handle office politics?

I'm not really skilled at working my way up or anything like that. I'm more the kind to do my job, and hope for the best. It kind of feels fake/inauthentic to try to be friends (or pretend to be friends) with people just so I can get a promotion or status. I just dislike the thought of it intensely.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?

I'm usually a leader or extremely active if the project interests me very much. If it doesn't, I'll sit on the side and just let someone take over and do my part of the deal.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?

.. No.
 
#44 ·
I think it's interesting when asked how many friends we have, some people put something like 1-2 or 2-3. It's like you have someone in mind, but you aren't certain just how good of friends you truly are.
 
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#45 ·
sp/sx:

1) How do you typically interact in a group?

I'll contribute in small groups, but add in more/unfamiliar people or a topic I know little about, and I'll almost always sit back listening to what is being said. Only if I have something really meaningful to add will I speak up, but with the latter condition, that seldom occurs.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.

Not really. It is not that I don't see the value of a community, but I have a hard time feeling like I belong, even if I am being welcomed genuinely with open arms.

3) How many friends do you have?

I only have three or four people I'd really call my friends. Unfortunately, aside from my SO, I don't get to see/talk to them often ever since I moved back home after graduating from university. As for acquaintances, there's plenty more of those, but being a non-social media user, I don't keep contact with them almost at all.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?

For the most part, no - I do not typically go seeking conversations in these things. Things are rarely as cut and dried as some people make them seem, often overlooking various details that can play key roles in certain issues. If I'm wading into that topic pool, it is almost always with someone I trust not to get offended or act in a belligerent fashion should we reach an impasse.

5) How do you handle office politics?

I don't take sides unless I feel my own interests are being attacked. In the past I've been more the person to whom some voice their personal concerns about how things are functioning.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?

I stick to whatever role I'm best working in. I only choose to lead if nobody else does, or if the dynamic is horribly dysfunctional and I can do so without splintering the team into factions. In school, if that failed or if I was saddled with a team of louts, I'd ask the teacher if I could simply work alone.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?

I don't. I'm a private person by nature, and I only stay in touch with those I have any kind of closeness with.
 
#46 ·
Accidie said:
I think it's interesting when asked how many friends we have, some people put something like 1-2 or 2-3. It's like you have someone in mind, but you aren't certain just how good of friends you truly are.
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The first and last friendship I actually had was with my ex. We haven't talked for half a year now because she's sorting out personal issues. But nothing else has ever lasted. And I don't know if I'll ever have anything but SOs who are also friends because I can't handle so much. I'm always conflicted, though
 
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#47 ·
Swordsman of Mana said:
1) How do you typically interact in a group?
2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
3) How many friends do you have?
4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
5) How do you handle office politics?
6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
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1) In large groups, I find one person I know to hang out with. If there is nobody I know, I leave ASAP. If I cannot leave, I change my behavior and start smiling, trying to find someone to chat with. (I'm pretty damned confident in myself and have nothing to lose, so why not?) If I can't do that (maybe I have low blood sugar or something), I find a corner to sulk in. If there are no corners, I take my handy pen and push it through my eye and into my brain. If I have no pen, well... it gets messy.

2) No sense of community anywhere (IRL). I sense one with my blood family, but I don't really like any of them a whole lot and find it difficult to communicate with them often. (They are all J's with the exception of an INFP whom I never got along with growing up, and now am cordial with.) I suppose I have a sense of community in a few online instances, but I do not view that as a healthy system to have.

3) My friends list here on PerC says 5. So 5? I also have a friend or two in a game I play? (lol) I have 0 real life friends, unfortunately including my significant other.

4) I had strong political interests, and do not anymore. (I do not feel the world will recover any time soon from being a sensationalist one, where politics are primarily determined by charisma and the media backup.)

5) I am blunt with office politics and will call people out on shit they do manipulatively. If the politics are between multiple idiots however, I generally leave it be.

6) I try to follow as much as possible, and do what I'm told. If the leader is inadequate or I find myself in the leadership position, I delegate a lot. Social issues in such situations are rarely a problem to me as I have a lot of experience here, though they once certainly were an issue.

7) I keep track of no organizations or contacts that I know of. I am terrible at even keeping track of RL friends, much less groups I don't directly associate with.
 
#48 ·
1) How do you typically interact in a group?
I make sure everyone is feeling alright and i might crack a few jokes. I tend to become more quiet if there's someone in the group that i don't know but i become more comfortable within time. If i don't feel wanted i might dismiss the group entirely and go do something else because i don't think it's worth the effort to win them over.
2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
Nope, there's too many douchebags.
3) How many friends do you have?
A few close friends and many acquaintances
4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
Sometimes, if it affects me.
5) How do you handle office politics?
I stay out of it. But i'll jump in if i get attacked.
6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
I take a step back to get a clear view of the situation. I filter the ideas and proposals of the other teammembers, solve conflicts and make sure that we make the best job we can.
7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
This usually takes my conscious effort to do. Some people are just shallow and uninteresting. If i don't take the social initiative i'm in danger of being alone.
 
#49 ·
1) How do you typically interact in a group?
2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
3) How many friends do you have?
4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
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#50 ·
1) How do you typically interact in a group?

I stay pretty quiet and get lost in my head or just observe. When directly addressed I often get the deer in headlights look because I wasn't paying attention. If I am invested in the topic being discussed I may add a few comments, but generally I address people one on one, even in a group. I like to sort of fade into the background; large groups are noisy and chaotic for me.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.

Not really, no.

3) How many friends do you have?

Close friends, less than 5, probably closer to 3. Everyone else I do not consider friends, but rather acquaintances, and even then that number is pretty low.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?

I consider myself apolitical, and no I do not go out guns blazing fighting for social justice or whatever the trend seems to be these days. I may have an opinion on one or two, but overall I am not an activist.

5) How do you handle office politics?

Indifferent towards them unless I witness blatant brown nosing which makes my stomach turn, and also makes me wonder if others can't see through such disingenuity, or if they simply do not care.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?

I am resigned to the fact that I cannot work alone, which I prefer, and do my best to get along for the sake of the project, but do not take much of an active roll outside what I would have normally done had I been left to work alone.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?

No, I even struggle with remembering to answer emails from the 2 or 3 people I communicate with regularly.
 
#51 ·
Sx/?/?

1) How do you typically interact in a group?
Depends on group. In college days I was part of various groups. Be it intellectual or naughty ones. I was the only student who had
Hundreds of Reader's digest as well as hundreds of Playboys..
2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
Well, I was borderline participant I think. These teams are still close-knit groups and I remained outsider
3) How many friends do you have?
3. All of them are 4am friends. Not in touch them in regular basis but friendship has reached comfort level not to get bugged about formalities
4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
Yes. I have strong for/against opinions about political & social issues. Most of the time I can seen discussing them over a lunch. I can talk in detail about movie, sports and celebrity gossips as well
5) How do you handle office politics?
Managed them well so far by being politically correct. Sometimes have urge to stand-up and take them on but they seldom happened.
6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
Team happiness and co-ordination is most important. Difficult to manage these individualists (Don't like them). I have arranged Friday's lunches, team activities, etc.
7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
I am not sure. Not active socially. Not active in FB. Do not call regularly. Do not wish Happy new years or Happy Birthdays.
 
#52 ·
Swordsman of Mana said:
1) How do you typically interact in a group?
2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
3) How many friends do you have?
4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
5) How do you handle office politics?
6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
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1. I'm almost always the quiet one who's there but is usually in his own head.
2. Only occasionally, and even then it's inconsistent and limited to those in my immediate space.
3. By strict definitions, 1 or 2.
4. Some interest. I see myself advocating for environmental issues especially.
5. I'm completely indifferent to them but not completely oblivious. I work in a small office so unless a door is closed, I hear almost everything.
6. Usually as either the wild card or a reluctant leader. I don't like working too closely with others.
7. Occasionally. Facebook is a big help.
 
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#53 ·
Honestly unsure of my instinctual stacking. For now, sx/sp will do.

1) How do you typically interact in a group?

Often I like to speak to everybody, but individually, not as a whole. Group conversations can be stimulating if we're speaking of a topic of interest, however, generally I feel less inclined to engage in said conversations if I'm not controlling the flow.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.

Hell no. My neighbors, my neighborhood, my city, my state; none of that means shit to me and never will.

3) How many friends do you have?

Four.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?

I find myself very interested in political and social issues; when I actually decide to keep track of them. This is not the case most of the time however.

5) How do you handle office politics?

I admit that I love to be well informed of what is happening within the workplace but I do not like to be directly involved.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?

Can't really say I'm much of a team-player. Everyone carries their own weight, we work together to achieve a goal, but it is up to the individual to do what must be done.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?

No, though I do like to "peek" into people's lives on Facebook fairly often to see what they've been up to.


 
#54 ·
Sx/sp here:

1) How do you typically interact in a group?

Kind of depends on the group. I tend to be quiet until I get the feel for the group and I give off little ghosts of my personality and see how people react to me before I go full force HELLO THIS IS ME!! kind of thing.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.

Uh. Well... No. I've been around that but I never feel... like I'm a part of that. I always feel like I'm an outsider, and that not everyone wants me there for whatever reason.

3) How many friends do you have?

I'm proud to say I have a fair few.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?

Yep. But I don't think I'm going to become a champion of my political stance any time soon. I might go to rallies but... eh.

5) How do you handle office politics?

Office politics? What? Does that mean like government positions or does it mean politics in a work place because I don't really care unless it concerns me, someone I care about, or one of my like values.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?

I tend to ask other people what they want to do. I don't really give a shit as long as it turns out okay. Unless it's something I'm passionate about.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?

Uh. No I don't think so hahaha
 
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sp/sx

1) How do you typically interact in a group?
If I know the group well - crazy. If I don't - horribly. It really depends on the the individuals in the group...there are people I'll know immediately if I can get along with and people who I know I'll get annoyed with. I can be very nice, easygoing, etc but I can act extremely indifferent and cold if I'm not into it.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
Nope.

3) How many friends do you have?
As of now - 1 close friend. Maybe like 5-7 people who know more than most about me. Lots of acquaintances.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
Yeah, it's a love/hate relationship. I'm an international studies major lol

5) How do you handle office politics?
Haven't had to.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
Communication always sucks. Honestly I've just been getting worse and worse with this and I'm pretty sure anyone who has had to work with me in a team hates me by the end of it. Totally depends on what we're working on as a team also - if I care about it and/or the project looks like it's in desperate need of saving I'll have no issue leading, but if I'm indifferent I'll just sit back.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
Noooooooooooo.
 
#56 ·
I think I am a sx/sp

1) How do you typically interact in a group?
I would say I am quiet within a group. Sometimes people encourage me to contribute. I speak to people one to one. If it's a exercise that I find interesting I can easily talk about it with ease. For example if it is about formula one. I went on a training program and was able to talk about it with ease.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
I'm not sure. I'm nigerian and feel a sense of community within my culture as well the british culture. Maybe that's one sense of community my culture. My religion going to church every sunday, but I don't take part in any activities outside of the services.

3) How many friends do you have?
I don't think I have close friends. I have around 1 to 3 friends I have been meeting up with since I graduated from university. One of my friend, I meet up sometimes I've known since primary school. I speak with my university mates on skype, facebook or google +. I haven't seen any since university. I see a few people I know, but there probably acquiescences.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
Mainly racism as a social issue. I've never experienced it.

5) How do you handle office politics?
I haven't experienced any office politics

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
In a small team, I am sometimes quiet and listen to what everybody else is saying. Sometimes I take the lead. I am a good team player. I am very friendly. I tend to always agree to things rather than saying no to things I don't want to do. I think people think they keep giving me things I don't want to do. I normally think people have hidden agendas so I tend not to trust them easily.

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
No I don't
 
#57 ·
Probable Sp/Sx might be Sx/Sp not sure yet, but So LAST FOR SURE!!!

1) How do you typically interact in a group?
I'm there and I enter into conversations that I feel I can participare in.
Most of the time I start one on one interaction with whoever I think might be interesting to talk to.
And then I work myself around the group,
until time is up or I've confirmed that everyone there has nothing interesting to say,
and/or don't care to listen to what I have to say. Then I usually find a way to leave.

2) Do you feel a sense of community? If yes, explain.
Well sure, if I'm part of a fotball team and we win I guess I could feel some limited sense of community for a moment.
Or if I hang out with likeminded people and everyone get along well.
Those situations are very few and far between.

3) How many friends do you have?
Dunno depends how you count, facebook claims I have 26 friends, but you know facebook.
The longer you have it the more your standards drop.

4) Do you have any interest in political or social issues?
I have some basic interest in politics, but it is always from the frame of,
if they do this then it will actually become harder or easier to do X, Y, Z.

5) How do you handle office politics?
Root for the side who makes sense.

6) When working in a team, how do you interact?
I make sure that my part is covered and check if anyone else need help with their part.
It is about getting to the goal right... RIGHT????!!!! o_O

7) Do you keep track of a wide range of organizations or contacts?
No I couldn't care doing that.
I'm always surprised when people give me their card as a networking sort of thing.
Like I would never call them, cause they didn't give me their card to be their friend.
They gave it in the chance situation that we could use each other to make money.
Since I never have been able to network, I don't have any great reason to make buisness calls.
 
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