I can tell if I don't like them back, but if I like them too then I go into derp mode and yeah, derp. As for the not reciprocating thing, I'm actually dealing with this for my first time right now, I keep dropping bits of personal information that I think would make the other party have second thoughts about their feelings for me. But I don't know if it works or not yet work in progress.

 

Can relate to this. If I like someone, I project my wishes on to them. In that case my intuition is unreliable and worth nothing.

 

Ni is a blessing. Ti (can be) a curse. So my answer is both yes and no. I can tell when people like me. But what does that mean? and on and on and on goes the curse ... so it's a matter of bitch slapping myself in my head so I can just be happy. pretty much.

 

Can you explain please what's with the Ni vs Ti clash? What Ti brings on in the 'liking process'? I'm very curious

 

I think I really have to be hit over the head with it. I can suspect, and hope, but don't usually trust it as some kind of gauge. In my youth, I was even more oblivious. I think intuition is bad for this kind of thing. It must be picked up through sensing. You can't dream your way into it, or intuitively understand it. It requires sensing. I think most of these social games favor sensors for this reason. In my youth, I had virtually no sensing, but looking back, I can see that women were blatantly hitting on me. I didn't pick it up though, because I lacked any kind of sensing.

 

Although I'm good at knowing other things intuitively... I've always been rather oblivious when it comes to guys liking me. Perhaps my mind can't wrap around the concept that it's possible that someone is looking at me in a romantic view... But it usually has to be right in my face for me to realize it, sadly. But if it's not reciprocated, I do feel really awkward, but I usually try my best to let them down lightly or avoid leading them on. :I Normally, I think they're good guys,but I just don't have feelings for them in that way. But I don't do anything if I don't know how they feel for sure. I don't like to assume things.

 

I definitely can tell when someone likes me in a romantic and platonic way. I just have trouble accepting the fact :frustrating:

I can relate to both of these a lot. I will understand obvious hints if someone shows interest in me, but I refuse to accept the facts and brush it off as wishful thinking or that I'm looking far too into it. Then I just tell myself "can't believe anyone could like someone like me" which makes me instantly turn down any hints and become blind to it as the same time. It's contradictingly complicated!

 

My favorite line I tell people is: I can read people better than I can read books.

With Extroverted Intuition being a dominant trait for the ENTP, I can typically pick up on how women are feeling and repressed thoughts before they even notice their own behavior or sentiments.

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I like to act on the impulses and quick understandings I get from women, because one of two things will happen:

[Correct Guess]
1. She will become extremely subtle and reserved, and may ultimately withdraw completely in shock. The contrary side to this is her being more open and expressive of her feelings; both relatively good things I must say. If she withdraws, I can be more playful and tease her. If she takes the latter, then it's my responsibility to be upfront when necessary and be respectful for how she feels towards me.

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2. She will challenge my interpretation and more than likely fill me in on what's going on in her head; typically without much, if any fluctuation in behavior.

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It's very easy for me to tell when a woman is holding back. What I notice is that regardless of if they like you, pinpointing changes in behavior seems to tell me a lot.

Erratic behavior is derived out of attempts to repress emotions; and the inability to suppress those feelings causes great conflict in ones ability to exhibit themselves in a genuine capacity.

 

My passion is actually understanding people. I spend at least an hour everyday reminiscing mentally what happened my day. I look for meanings and things that I missed before. I look at what people did and why they did it. What is the significance of it and what conclusions can I draw. Often times one action isn't enough to draw a conclusion so I often wait till I have more pieces or look to find a way to ask a question that helps me know what I want to know.

That being said, I can normally tell if someone likes me fairly quickly based on how they act around me. If they are strangers I find it easier, because their are less variables. They don't know you. You can look for micro expressions on the instant that they see you, or the way that they make eye contact. If you are not attracted to someone, you are considerably less likely to notice them and will likely even avoid eye contact.

My favorite is when girls start messing with their hair subconsciously after someone they liked just look at them. - The, how do I look and is my hair okay, approach.

 

I can always tell... especially (as the first reply pointed out) if I don't like them, which is almost always the case.

The girls I tend to fall head over heels for are the ones I can't read and figure out--ones that keep me on my toes, and keep chasing.

 

I can tell when a girl likes me, but I can't tell if it's because she senses something deeper inside aka the -real- me OR if she's just enamoured by the flash and dash when I put on a mask and jump through hoops based on the environment. On a superficial level, it's really easy to showboat some desirable traits.

In any case, while I'd consider myself romantically driven, I also have a cautious side that is hyper vigilant about ensuring this our bond is based on the right reasons. I tend to joke that I always date someone *in my head* for months or years (not real time). While this is all processing in my thoughts and I tend to hyper analyze them and make an educated guess about a future together. If there's no foreseeable end in sight or a cloud of mystery (not certain enough), I'll make a move and find out for myself.

Story time~

 

I remember this one girl in University was totally crushing on me. She would always stare at me or freeze whenever I was near her. It was always noticeable so I'd glance over in a reactive manner and she interpreted this as me liking her. Comically, I'm guilty of sometimes having interest in someone just because they're interested in me so I started to pay more attention. In time, my romantic side got excited about the prospects, obviously idealizing some possibilities then I remember she made a post online on Craigslist (Missed Connections) and it said...

-> Clicky twice if too small -> http://i58.tinypic.com/2ikfr52.jpg

First, the dates were wrong (we don't see each other on Monday / Wednesday -- it was Monday and Thursday).
Second, her main basis for our connection was enjoying music...

I remember reading this and a few other things I've noticed over time and thinking bleh. It felt so... bland... So I wouldn't end up pursuing.

On a hilarious note, someone else would make a post on Craigslist Missed Connections and it was a vague post about a guy who has a crush on a girl, but he said he was too shy to make a move because he had a zit on his nose. I remember freaking out thinking "oh shit" the girl was into me might see this post and think it's me -> her... and it actually did end up happening! She thought it was me~

I'll stop the story there since I'm rambling and going off topic.

 

If I can tell when someone REALLY likes me? When she gets time to know me, and she becomes totally interested in me, wanting to spend time around me? Yes, its very easy, and very rare. And very empowering!

 

"Oh my god, she smiled at me!"

Deduction: She wants me.

That's actually classic "women thinking" !
Guys are much more...experienced!

 

i think i can, but then doubt myself. and feel like i am losing my mind.

This is exactly my thought process as well.

My inner monologue goes something like this:

"She seems interested in me, but maybe she's just being nice....but no, the way that she looks at my eyes tells me something is going on there, yet, maybe she does that with everyone else...hmm perhaps I'm just projecting and there's nothing there but hey, why not? I think I'm an interesting person but then again I can be a bit too intense. Maybe I should stop overthinking about it and ask her directly, but what if she says no and end up making a fool out myself?*3 hours later of this monologue* ah fuck it...I think I'll just go play Mario Kart instead."

 

Yes, though it is less clear if I have any interest in the person as well. It's usually pretty obvious. I don't act upon it though unless the guy were to admit it and initiate.

 

Marry me...

(Waits for reply, hehe.)

 

look for pacifying behaviors, body language.

under stressful situations, the brain requires the body to do something that will stimulate nerve endings to release calming endorphins in the brain, so that the brain can be soothed (es. women: tucking hair behind ear).

if they act nervous around you, there is a good chance that they like you

just yesterday 2 random girls in a row passed by me and tucked their hair behind their ears, like, both at the same time, fuckin hilarious

 

Very cool if true, but I need source.

 

I definitely can tell when someone likes me in a romantic and platonic way. I just have trouble accepting the fact :frustrating:

 

I generally presume everyone hates me until they say otherwise haha

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Almost every time.

It's a curse when after that, you lost it in the Ni-Ti loop.

 

Never. You have to write it down or scream it in my face for me to understand.

 

I'm pretty sure I can. The only problem is that I'm never fully liked... Usually a girl may like me in a way, yet is reluctant in others. It's strange, but I'm strange, so I guess it's not completely strange.

I usually don't change much at all, really. Usually the only difference is that I just drop hints that I don't like her back every now and a then. Now, if she's over-attached and I've hinted that I don't like her back, then I just keep my distance. I have this, ability, to just drop out of people's lives... at least until I want to come back.

 

Decently normal, well-adjusted human beings = yes, i know in a heartbeat

Socially awkward, emotionally stunted human beings = Ni/Ti loop time ... sigh.

why do I waste time on the latter?? my heart is drawn to them as to a sick puppy.