I date an ESTP(who is also a countraphic 6w7) and for both of us, this is our longest relationship ever...At the begging we both got into relationship well knowing, our personalities and interests are very different, but still we felt that attraction for each other and we built our relationship to the point I feel very loved and safe with him, but now I am afraid I opened a panodra's box...I've always known how different our opinions are. But once he really shoot to my weak point, when he said: "I have my own moral principles, and I am not guided by those mainstream moral rules. But you...your principles are the same as everyone else's and are not individualistic at all..." When he said that I thought I am going to slowly and painfully kill him, but I calmed myself down and I started arguing with him. I told him how I believe in freedom, and open mind and that everyone should have his own believes, without hurting each other, because humanity needs compassion and no bounderies, or prejudices. I told that, because he often makes pretty cruel fun of weaker people, or someone with handicap. His arguents were...he can make fun of whoever he wants and I am stealing his freedom, if I prohibit it to him. Than he started to say some really wierd things like...why do I eat meat, if I believe everyone se equal, because we all are animals, and if I say we are not I am closeminded, or why do I eat vegetables, I can't know they don't have feelings...and really just stupid things like that. The worst thing, it sounds like trolling, but it wasn't. He was serious, when he told that stuff and he does it all the time, when we got into arguments. He just pick up totaly wierd "trues" to knock me down and to tell me, that if I think he's wrong I am the closeminded one...It's really like wtf?! I was trying to tolerate his believes, and to be nice and carring, but lately I decided, that we should be somehow useful for each other. I decided, that I want to make him more open minded, to see more possibilities, but now I see we are just getting in arguments because of it... Is this just why ESTP/ENFP relationship mostly doesn't work? Is it really that worng try to change someone, but in the possitive way, I just want him to see more. Can a relationship like that work for a longer time, or will it just crash down anyway?