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How are INFJs blind to extraverted Thinking?

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#1 ·
I have a pretty good understanding about all the cognitive functions but I'm having a hard time understanding extraverted thinking probably since it's INFJ's 7th function and is our blindspot. I'm trying to figure out how my behavior reflects blind extraverted thinking. I'm very bad at bossing people around, putting my foot down, systemizing tasks and getting things done. I'm very good a problem solving and seeing what is wrong with a system but I have a hard time delegating tasks to people and figuring out how to accomplish a technical goal I have in mind. I keep second guessing my decisions. Is that how I demonstrate a blind Te?

Would love to get a better grasp of how Te really works in terms of INFJ. Thank you for all your responses.
 
#4 ·
Looking at what Te does well, it gets easier to see where we lack it.

Te is all about sharing thought, and processing others thinking. It's attitude in use is quite similar to Fe, but with a different target subject.

Te is exceptional at breaking things down into bite sized, understandable pieces. It processes quickly, and discards what is unknown or not glaringly relevant.

That thing where we overthink, and then overthink some more? That's ALL Ti, with Ni incessantly demanding assistance.
Te users don't overthink the way we do, they just think, and then move on to the next. If they have a factual problem that's challenging, they look outwards for the answers, they don't sink down into solipsistic mental searching like our Ti drives us to do.

That thing where we have trouble explaining ourselves? A lack of functional Te is to blame.
Oh, sometimes I wish for it especially hard when I'm trying to write a post on here and it takes me SO many words to lay out my point, or in real life when a question takes me a 10 minute spiel to answer, and then someone comments, "Why didn't you just say X? You could have saved us all this." and I'm like "X! I never even thought to put it that way, why doesn't someone just read my mind and then explain it concisely for me?!"
If I could have an aftermarket mod, like a plug in external hard drive for brains, I would have it running Te, just so I could use it in times of need or doubt.

If I could use Te, I would play the stock market (for family's sake) I'm a curious person and read a wide variety of stuff, often imagining myself to be capable of understanding most things well... But when I peruse financial news articles and advice columns, the screen starts to read like gobbly ****. There's a wall there, even though I'm great with language. So many numbers, they all start to blur. I'm not kidding, I think aliens write that stuff to challenge mankind into advancement (am kidding, actually).
Fix my credit? It sounds so complicated. I chose the wait 7 years option and now have no credit, lol.
Deal with government forms and bureaucratic hoops? Who invented this crap? I call my mom, who doesn't ever think she can handle it, but as a Si dom it somehow comes back to her, lol.
Answer an interview question with the exactingly precise, accurate, polished speech you can tell they are looking for? Especially when interviewed by those sharp eyed Te doms? Ahh, just thinking about it gives me hives.
No, I don't think fast! I think slow & correct.

These are some of the reasons I ended up leaning towards "If you can't beat them, join them." and am hoping to get a strong Te user in my circle. I will trade emotionally wrought mutual friend counseling, I'll even make sandwiches, just pleeeease tell me how to deal with numbers and excessively complicated worldly crap!
<collapses into pathetic heap on floor>
 
#5 ·
That thing where we overthink, and then overthink some more? That's ALL Ti, with Ni incessantly demanding assistance.
Te users don't overthink the way we do, they just think, and then move on to the next. If they have a factual problem that's challenging, they look outwards for the answers, they don't sink down into solipsistic mental searching like our Ti drives us to do.

That thing where we have trouble explaining ourselves? A lack of functional Te is to blame.
Lmao one of the problems I have is, sometimes I'm sure of myself and don't know how to explain WHY I'm sure. The fact that I don't know why I am sure irritates me, and the fact that other people may see me as irrational because of this in a discussion irritates me even more. This pisses me off, and I never thought this can be related to weak Te.

Another thing is, if I start writing about something I'm passionate about, I never find an appropriated "end" to my texts. I just keep going, going... and the "period" is never there. Sometimes I forget why I started to write in the first place.
 
#6 ·
I rather just type things out rather than trying to speak complicated things out, doing it the way some people want may as well be trying to run Windows 10 then loading PubG on a 12mhz 286 with only 4mb of ram and some shitty oak logic isa card with no sound card at all.
 
#7 ·
Te is comfortable with having ‘enough’ information to act sooner than we are. A lot sooner. It walks into a situation with a pre-formulated plan, adjusts according to the variables, and acts. From there on, it’s still learning and growing, but it reintegrated the information into the action in progress. You’ll see INFJs fall into the Ti/Ni trap of thinking they’ve got to plan for every single variable, they’ve got to research every piece of information, they’ve got to have ALL the information before acting.

Finding the most efficient way of doing everything is something Te excels at without trying. Less words, less steps, less waste, less overhead, etc. It spills into every aspect of life, even recreation. For instance, Ni/Ti loves learning for the sake of learning. If it is interesting, it learns it, and who cares if it’s practical? Te, on the other hand, learns with a focused ferocity. You’ll see it focus on subjects related to its chosen field, with even hobbies that are field-adjacent. Why learn anything when you could be pragmatic about it?
 
#9 ·
I really liked this)))

Also, the innate drive, and ability, for "efficiency" gives strong Te users a certain CONFIDENCE they navigate both private and public matters with. And sometimes some of them overtly look down on people who don't use Te, as if saying (or actually saying): "Don't you have ANY practical use in society?" I'm glad it's not as common, though, cause it makes me feel worthless (in their eyes, at least).
 
#8 ·
I'm not so much blind to as repulsed by it. I handle "Te matters" just fine with what I have.

Good slave, terrible master.
 
#11 ·
Thank you everyone for the responses. Been a hectic past few weeks so I've been slow at responding. I guess blind Te is like when my ENTP boyfriend says he's bringing a large box up the stairs, down the stairs, up the stairs, down the stair; Make up your damn mind woman ;)
 
#12 · (Edited)
Te Blindspot or according to socionics PoLr (Point of least resistance) is your weakest function and most painful to use for, infj's it is Te one form of it manifesting is getting drained of energy when you have to perform practical everyday tasks or achieving modest results proportionally to the energy you invested in a project
 
#13 ·
I'm actually fairly good at it. It doesn't come naturally but if you put in work, you can start systematically planning your endeavours. I think the reason I developed an appreciation for it is because my dad is the ISTJest ISTJ who ever ISTJ'd, and living with him all these years has rubbed off a little. That man makes Excel spreadsheets for literally everything, his life is almost comically organised and controlled. Spontaneity and impulsiveness are like dirty swear words for him :laughing:
 
#15 ·
I thought INFJ functions go in the order of Ni-Fe-Ti-Se-Ne-Fi-Te-Si . Isn't that the 7th according to Socionics? I read that was the blindspot.
 
#17 ·
Te to me is optimization. Take your thinking process and turn it into an applicable system so you don't have to think through it every single time. You have a standard then, so you can just apply it to the situation and go.

Granted, it's my inferior function, so take what I said with a grain of salt! But if it's supposedly my "childlike" function, you could assume that this is the basic understanding of it that you want to know.
 
#21 ·
INFJs are: Ni - Fe - Ti - Se. As an INFJ you don’t have Te. As others have said it is an alternative to Ti. But you already have Ti, so Te isn’t part of your functions.

You may use Extraverted Thinking in a king of artificial way, but it requires a conscious effort and it (likely) feels it drains energy. Your mind won’t naturally use Te.