[bionic]

You know I care if I see you upset and pull you aside to talk about it/ask how you're doing. Or when you call me at 3am, crying, and I stay up with you for another few hours trying to calm you down and talk out your emotions even though I have class at 9am.

You know I respect you if I stand up for you in front of others and take the heat for you, even if I know you are wrong.

 

[SilentScream]

My brother to me this morning:

"You fucking dipshit, you can also drop in and say Hi once in a while. I'm never talking to you again because I've been initiating conversations with you for the past few weeks and you could do that too once in a while."

He practically loves me XD

 

[Niccolo Machiavelli]

Sometimes I get people kittens just so I can kill it to illustrate the level of hatred I feel for them.

That is what the options are SUPPOSED to be. As in, if the INTJ gets you a kitten, he hates you whether the INTJ kills it or not. :laughing:

 

[Silhouette]

I can tell you about the way I show interest or attraction to women. I rarely feel respect, and you have to be a close friend for me to care.

In a standard scenario, I'll initiate eye contact first, and I'll firmly stand my ground. This is my way of testing for 1) your initial level of interest and attraction, 2) your confidence. You better not shy away

If I'm still interested, I'll go talk to you - It'll be mostly teasing though, to see how well you react. I'm also eager to touch, but I think most INTJs stick on the conversational level at first.

I weed out around 90% of the candidates with these simple steps. If you still seem to be interesting, I'll start communicating my interest verbally - and beyond.

It's a long process for me to care, but if you've stuck with me until the end, I won't hesitate to share anything I have.

As far as respect goes, I value creativity, originality, intelligence and willpower above anything else. I don't seem to respect those who lack the above traits, and if those people are by chance above me on the academic ladder, I tend to be sarcastic and bratty. But if you're a noble and intelligent guy/girl, I'll immediately offer you my help, or step aside without any questions asked.

 

[apmeggison]

I'll say it.

 

[Marshmallow Moo]

I can't speak for anyone else, but at least for me, I show respect for people when I:

-listen to them without interruption
-give them my opinion without much censorship (I try to tone it down for people who I know are Feelers)
-look them in the eye

If I don't have much respect for you, I will probably:
-be extremely sarcastic with you
-continuously question the logic of your statements while I smile humorously and/or roll my eyes
-not be myself around you
-censor my opinions (unless I am feeling extreme contempt for your ideologies)
-either laugh at everything you say, or not laugh at all. The former when I know you can't handle my true self, the latter when I just hate you.

If I like you romantically, I will probably:
-avoid you like the plague
-be extremely curt with you at first, maybe even become suddenly emotionally distant
-start stumbling over every word like an incompetent idiot and change subjects quickly so as to avoid awkward silence
-be quick to end conversations with you, unless I know you like me back
-smile a lot when I'm around you
-joke with you. A lot. If we have inside jokes we are probably in a very good place.
-just tell you I like you, if your feelings are obvious too

If I don't like you romantically, I will probably:
-talk to you on a regular basis but I won't initiate anything myself or appear flustered when I'm around you
-not treat you differently from anyone else.

And that's all I've got to say 'bout that.

 

[Abx]

1. I will pay attention and listen to them without interruption.
2. I spend time with them more often than anyone else.

 

[Feral sheep]

I think its pretty easy to tell if an intj likes,cares or respects you. one good sign would look something like this.

 

[Mendi the ISFJ]

Sometimes I get people kittens just so I can kill it to illustrate the level of hatred I feel for them.


Use HTML silly man.

ok i have come to the conclusion that i can no longer be friendly with INTJs as its dangerous for my cat in the off chance that one ends up liking me. XD

 

[Aedesia]

Here are a couple of mine:

- Ask for the persons opinion. Whether or not I listen is an entirely other matter.
- I will initiate hanging out/ conversation
- Go out of my way to be around the person
- Tell the person what I really think about their arguments, what they're saying etc.
- Fight to the point that it's comical for people watching
- I'll admit when I'm wrong
- I can tolerate being in close proximity to the person for extended periods of time

But it also depends on the persons personality. The meeker they are, the meeker I am. If they're hot headed, I'll be cool. If they can't admit they're wrong, we'll be arguing. A lot. But not to the point that we'll not forgive each other.

 

[Donkey D Kong]

If I'm willing to spend time with someone, then that means that I respect them enough to call them a friend.

 

[Reynaldo Zamora]

^ Pretty much the definition there. If I'm giving you my time, it's a go from there.

 

[Resolution]

This is a foolproof system I've found.

First, propose an absolutely absurdly stupid hypothesis.

You can tell if an INTJ respects you because they hesitate for a few moments before ripping it to pieces. This shows that they wouldn't have expected such an absurd non-sequitur load of crap to come from you, or in other words, they respect you.

 

[Faklubrejle]

... avoid looking at a girl's body at all if I'm attracted to her, which makes it odd as I've already said I avoid looking at her eyes. I pretty much don't look at her at all.

Sir, are you me? Even though I feel as if I was born just to perceive the perfection of every single detail of hers, the statement above is true.

 

[Popinjay]

Sir, are you me? Even though I feel as if I was born just to perceive the perfection of every single detail of hers, the statement above is true.

Me, too...I consider myself to have impeccable taste in the beauty of the female creature.

 

[Jazzlee]

My INTJ best friend repeatedly tells people he respects/likes that they're awesome. Showing that he cares... not so much. The closest I've seen him showing that he cares is how he always sits out my rants, even when it's just emotional venting.

As for the way you guys show attraction... lol. XD Maybe I should find myself an INTJ guy after all - we could spend our first whole date nervous-deathglaring each other (and everybody else present at the date venue) as a way of showing affection...

 

[searcheagle]

My INTJ best friend repeatedly tells people he respects/likes that they're awesome. Showing that he cares... not so much. The closest I've seen him showing that he cares is how he always sits out my rants, even when it's just emotional venting.

In my case and all my readings of INTJ profiles compliments aren't our thing. I'll be more available for you or do things to help you out. I can't think of the last person I called "awesome." Thought, maybe, but not say. My mind is too focused on the conversation or other things to tell them simple words like "awesome."

 

[PurpleTree]

I can tell you about the way I show interest or attraction to women. I rarely feel respect, and you have to be a close friend for me to care.

In a standard scenario, I'll initiate eye contact first, and I'll firmly stand my ground. This is my way of testing for 1) your initial level of interest and attraction, 2) your confidence. You better not shy away

If I'm still interested, I'll go talk to you - It'll be mostly teasing though, to see how well you react. I'm also eager to touch, but I think most INTJs stick on the conversational level at first.

I weed out around 90% of the candidates with these simple steps. If you still seem to be interesting, I'll start communicating my interest verbally - and beyond.

It's a long process for me to care, but if you've stuck with me until the end, I won't hesitate to share anything I have.

As far as respect goes, I value creativity, originality, intelligence and willpower above anything else. I don't seem to respect those who lack the above traits, and if those people are by chance above me on the academic ladder, I tend to be sarcastic and bratty. But if you're a noble and intelligent guy/girl, I'll immediately offer you my help, or step aside without any questions asked.

I see you're female, so I'm qualified to answer this question as a man.

First off, according to your profile you do not have a personality. INTJ's only like women with personalities. :wink:

B. If he acts ridiculously awkward around you (like not making eye-contact or sounding like he has no functioning brain...the opposite of how he does in an e-mail), he likes you, or at least is physically attracted to you. I will try EXTREMELY hard to avoid eye contact with a girl to which I am attracted because I have this irrational fear that women can see the lust in my eyes within milliseconds of seeing me look into their eyes.

C. If he bends over backwards to do things for you (more-so than for others), he likes you. Caveat: some INTJ's (like me) have zero capacity to say no. I help anyone (even when I don't want to do so), so this one's only valid if he is clearly finding reasons to be around you by helping you more than others.

D. If he does make eye-contact and he gives you the standard INTJ death-stare but his pupils get huge, he REALLY likes you, or else he's falling asleep because you are boring him to death. If you're reasonably attractive and you get the huge pupils, you can pretty much guarantee he's attracted to you and you could be reading a phonebook and he'd enjoy listening to you.

E. If he blushes every time you talk to him, he likes you, or at least is physically attracted to you.

F. If he seems unusually curt to you (perhaps terse is a better word), he likes you. If I'm seriously attracted to a girl, I lose all capacity to speak intelligently, so I avoid speaking as much as possible and try to hide the fact that I'm trembling slightly.

G. If you're a hot babe and he refuses to check you out at all while you are looking, he REALLY likes you. If I am insanely attracted to a girl and she raises her arms above her head to yawn, I'll look away REALLY fast...and possibly giggle quietly under my breath. Same vein, I will (conspicuously so) avoid looking at a girl's body at all if I'm attracted to her, which makes it odd as I've already said I avoid looking at her eyes. I pretty much don't look at her at all. It would make a funny segment on a sketch comedy: "An INTJ meets Jessica Alba...or tries to anyway."

You seriously make me question what others think about me because I rarely look at people when I talk to them and it has nothing to do with attractiveness.


GUYS, IT’S HOW DO YOU SHOW CARE AND RESPECT NOT THAT YOU WANT TO SHAG!



(My verb choices were limited. *Austin Powers flashbacks* I’m sure @lib will cover me if my verb choice gets too much attention…)

 

[Jazzlee]

In my case and all my readings of INTJ profiles compliments aren't our thing. I'll be more available for you or do things to help you out. I can't think of the last person I called "awesome." Thought, maybe, but not say. My mind is too focused on the conversation or other things to tell them simple words like "awesome."

This is interesting. I have a few other INTJ acquaintances, but only those with an Enneagram type within the 9-1-2 triad actually give compliments. And that is regardless of how developed Fi they have. Even though I know MBTI is only a framework for how we think, it's rather fascinating to see just how much Enneagrams can influence the common traits associated with a certain type. /rant

As for my best friend... I'm just guessing here, but I think in-between his glares and vibes of being unapproachable, I think he's just trying to find a casual way of showing he doesn't outright dislike the person in question. It's way too easy to misunderstand him otherwise.

 

[kikidmonkey]

How do I show that I care and respect someone?
first off, I'll actually talk to them.

I'll argue with them. I find arguing to be very enjoyable, and I only argue with someone I have some respect for. Or I'll use it as a testing grounds to see if the other person has redeeming qualities.

If I ask you for help (rare) there is a strong chance I respect you (unless it's just manual labor)

If I help you do something that I obviously don't want to do.

If you are in the sweet spot of me actually caring about you, but not caring so much that I am worried I will do something inappropriate and ruin everything, I might actually TOUCH you, maybe, perhaps. The same also applies to eye contact.

I'll accept food from you. I personally have this really bizarre attachment with food, presenting me with food is a HUGE deal for me, so If I don't really, REALLY like a person, being presented with food is almost frightening and I will not accept it.

that's all I can think of off the top of my head.