The same way like everyone else.

 

 

You just toss the person into the sample vat that is our lives and you play the wait-and-see game to see if the addition of that person into the vat causes toxic overspill or bad reactions. If they taint the concoction, pour out the sample vat with the multi-cellular compound and never utilize that compound again and reject doing business with his or her vendor. Take extensive notes accordingly.

 

Care to share any specific examples of when you personally conduct such a test?

 

Watch for their pH level

 

I was being serious in a sort of light-hearted metaphorical way.
It means watch, or rather observe, for any acidic behavior. Simply look up acidic—sharp tasting or sour.
I do not see it as a test per se, but rather when I see this kind of behavior I either walk away or don’t get involved closely.

 

When someone finally write a moderately fair topic, you guys have to fuck it with these wannabe funny misinterpretations. I seriously don't get why you guys pretending to be more retarded than you already are.
Probably if the post were about relationship problems, you would already writing your shitty overgeneralized, pseudo intellectual advices.

 

Well you see that is the difference between inductive and deductive approach. My inductive approach is basically I will do/say some shit and see what will happen.

Your approach is deductive since you already have a "hypothesis" what would happen or want to happen if someone posted a relationship problem.

INTJ test people...for real. I used to read their forum before and they said that themselves. Your shitty reaction shows that you could have strong Te but its only because you have activated my trap card.

 

I'm not quite sure I follow exactly... what do you mean by "test"? You mean like testing their loyalty? Or testing something else? Testing their potential?
As far as I'm aware I don't really conduct tests against people I would trust enough to call my friend or partner. If I was wanting to test them then something is wrong.


Then again, I have wanted to "test" someone's knowledge before... but that's nothing serious, I just wanted to hear their perspective and information.

 

Testing people? This sounds more like an ENFJ thing than an INFJ thing.

I don't really feel the need to test people, because people are easy to read for me. I instinctively know who is trustworthy and who is not.
My gut feelings about people is rarely wrong either.

You wouldn't be able to guess the amount of information I'm able to intuit about people just by looking into their eyes.

 

I don't feel as if I test anyone, trust is what matters to me. If I get a bad off vibe about them, I don't think I'll open up to them.
Anytime I feel uncomfortable around someone, I'm usually quiet and don't say a lot. My friends are the ones who know the real me.

 

I agree that testing is more of an extrovert behaviour. You are essentially inviting conflict. I mainly observe and work with what is there. Life itself naturally tests the subject. I may also make a mistake in how to say or word something and it produces new data from their reactions. Sometimes this mistake is done intuitively to be honest--that's as far i go with tests.

 

Yeah I wouldn't say I test people, though I do try to explain their behavior. I mean I always try to offer the best or most appropriate response to people that I feel capable of, I don't deliberately say or do something out of the ordinary just to see how they'll react. I do pay attention to their reactions to my behavior though and incorporate that into my understanding of the situation.

 

I look at their soul and how this aligns with myself and my values, then I do the same to their friends and acquaintances. I distance people accordingly. Active testing almost always produce by-products and contamination, passive observation yield the best results.

 

For example, early on when my current S.O. and I were dating. He and I kept at arms length as we revolved into each other's worlds. Like two celestial bodies being pulled by each other's gravity. He introduced me to his parents and his pets. He made it a point to see how I handled his family's dogs knowing I had a dog and cats myself. Then he introduced me to his friends and his extended family. Especially his three year old nephew at that time. I used a similar approach, but I introduced him to my Einy (schnoodle terrier mix) first. Then my family and other pets. Then friends. Similar humor and compatible interests and similar values have made a more stable bond. But their were achievements to unlock. The opinions of the people and pets in our worlds had weight by default. Even though it wasn't the be all end all.

I've never really thought about my own processes much with friendships. Most of my friendships are just me and the other person. Almost never do they interact with my family. I wouldn't say I would see friendships as expendable, but friendships don't have the same social bond as family/spouse. I either like the person on a treasured amicable level that warrants some care and consideration from me and call them friend or see them in a neutral light and strive to maintain an amicable acquaintanceship. A very deeply held moral or value has to be crossed to warrant my disdain. Sometimes I don't know what that is until the situation or person triggers it. Some of my past "friendships" can be seen as questionable due to the associated reputations of the "friend" and my psychological curiosity to understand their world.

 

Does everybody do this? I don't think I've ever 'tested' someone for their potential to be a part of my life. Consciously at least.

 

To answer the OP, I might observe and watch, but I tend to believe that ‘testing ‘ people, ends up pushing those potential wonderful people away. Who wants to go through a series of tests? True Ni & Fe acknowledges how much other people are not going to enjoy a series of tests and knows that’s not the best way to find true commitment with any individual.

On a separate note, there are certain individuals that will try to seek responses due to their own, possible, inability to get any other form of attention. Classic. Certain behaviors are learned very on in childhood and are difficult to overcome when socializing in adulthood. I will not test these people. I just hope that they’ll soon realize and make the necessary changes to their behavior.

It’s quite easy to go after other people constantly. It’s much more difficult and much more admirable to realize and change one’s own tendencies and behaviors and begin to try to gain attention for positive attributes.

 

Would think Ni-Fe wouldn't need to test because red flags would just naturally show up. Besides, it might not be a great idea to persue a relationship at all for the moment if one feels the need to investigate.

 

It isn't a literal testing of others but more of an introduce and include in slowly and take wait and see approach to see how the interpersonal chemistry works out.