Personality Cafe banner

INFP 9 Thread

Tags
infp thread
18K views 58 replies 39 participants last post by  Tanderson  
#1 ·
This is the thread for all things pertaining to those of us who are both INFP and enneagram 9.

Ready, go!
 
#2 ·
Oh that's me... possibly.

I'm an enneagram 9... I might be an INTP... though right now I'm leaning towards INFP.

It creates a strange mix, because I don't feel very emotional and find it hard to have a sense of self sometimes.

I strongly value being true to myself and honest. I tend to get along with everyone if they give me a chance...
 
#14 ·
Blue and faux, thank you for share in depth.

Sily, nice video!



Well, at least you shouldn't have to put up with much of a fight.

I am 9w1 (although I am not sure... I don't have a good idea of who I am in general anyway). All I know though is that I'm procrastinating right now and doing things are definitely overrated. Daydreaming for a whole day is not uncommon for me (if I am able to afford it). Also, I generally hate conflict.
You're in!

-----------

Me:
I find myself getting into situations where the person I am with is violating my INFP values. This leads to an internal conflict between INFP and 9. Usually, 9 wins and I don't say anything because I don't want to start an argument. Sometimes though, INFP wins. In those situations it's like 9 gets completely thrown out the window and I become a very stubborn person who won't back down.

I hate paperwork. I spend a lot of time watching TV, playing games, and programing. I really like pictures. I love music. I love running. I'm the seventh of eight children.

It's a common tendency of mine at social events to quietly listen to other people talk, only throwing comments in when I have something valuable to say.

I don't put a lot of effort into fashion. Usually I just wear a random tee-shirt and jeans. When I want to look nice I wear a button up shirt tucked into pants with a belt.

I don't have all-time favorites of anything. Sometimes I have some "favorites of the moment."
 
#11 ·
Well I find myself being called wishy-washy. I am very indecisive about 90% of topics. I am very unmotivated and don't rock the boat. My idealism is stunted by my desire for middle ground. Unfortunately, this causes me to feel trapped between what I really want to do, and what I feel expected to do. I am very, very, VERY conflict avoidant, but driven to support those I feel are being wronged. I don't know if this is a more 9 thing, or INFP thing... But I dress extremely plainly. Solid T shirts and solid colored shorts or pants... no hats, and only sunglasses when I feel the need. I am completely oblivious to style, and can't figure out a haircut that is both appealing to others, and comfortable to me. However, given the opportunity, I have no problem dressing up in costume. It's almost an all or nothing. I seem to be pretty good at defusing arguments in real life...

Currently, I am pretty well aligned to Light based subjects ( such as hugs, puppies, lolly-pops, care-free dancing, flowers, etc.) I have found sinking into dark moods to be pretty easy though. This could be because of my tendency to constantly try to find middle ground at the expense of my own desires, to only get walked on top of in the end, and left with the bag.

When it comes to projects, I find the process quite frustrating. My natural tendency is to make due with what I have available to me. If I can't do something due to limitations, I will improvise and try to achieve something similar. The problem is, by doing this I am NEVER satisfied with my results. I have an image in my mind I want to recreate, but the lack of ability to create it... usually due to environmental pressures such as resources and "Other People." I don't do much in the way of art anymore. I feel I can't achieve what I really want without meddling from outside influences... people are nosy and pushy at my house...

I have a strong desire to be friends with everyone, in a peaceful non-argumentative way... even if I am not too vocal about it. I think people misread this usually as something else. I don't know what, but it usually doesn't lead to desired results.

I suppose I will leave it here for now. :proud:
 
#12 ·
I'm 9w4, but I sympathize with what you've said very much. Particularly the last paragraph. I make a new buddy every day, but only like keeping them around if they are chill and nonchalant. I'm afraid that people tend to think that I hop around from different people constantly, and that I don't value their friendship when that's not the case. I'm usually oblivious to people's conflicts with other people and feel like an idiot when I find myself dancing into people's problems and having to sort it out. It gets tedious, but I can't deny how great it feels to help them sort their differences and move on.

And I don't even know why people come to me. I'm the quiet, reserved chick who is constantly oblivious and in my own world. But they do ask for my insight and bother talking to me and I can't not help them. It's just who I am. :blushed:
 
#31 ·
It needs to be said - - -> to the 3 pictures of the man below and the Batman and Robin duo - I don't know who you are and you should not be in my posts. Please understand it was not my doing.

More on topic - I'm pretty sure I remain a 9.




It's official - according to the ( Ingenious Personality Quiz ) @ my site, I'm a Nine. It's a parody of the enneagram, but still, in the crazy games I'm a Nine? LOL.

Screen shot:

Image
 
#26 ·
I'm a 9w1 INFP, but I don't think I fully appreciate what that means since I've been much more interested in the more concrete MBTI profiles over the more vague enneagram test. Basically what I remember is that our mantra is, "Seek harmony, avoid conflict" much more than it is for other INFPs, but I wonder if anyone's given it more thought than that...I'd be interested to know.
 
#28 ·
after reading about those numbers I'm pretty solid I'm a 9 w 8... not 100% though... I avoid conflict but I'm not afraid to face it. It's sorta like... I know I can handle conflict pretty well and assertively, but I much rather not because my core value is peace and harmony. If I do enter conflict it's to defend the peace, so I guess a sort of peace warrior, fighting to not fight? lol
 
#33 ·
toooootally. not sure if this is a healthy 9 thing or 8 wing influence.

i also find it interesting that the 9 struggles with sense of self while the infp feels so essentially different from other people.

my experience of this combination has been that i sometimes find myself in moments of reflection outside, like when it's really nice out, feeling a deep, deep appreciation for the way light falls on anything, the way someone so carefully decorated their yard, feeling like i have love for all living things. i don't know how to use words to express it without sounding like a cheeseball, haha... also a motivation to uncover "universal truths" about life and people via extraverted intuition, etc. remaining neutral about things consciously despite maybe sometimes having an opinion secretly... until someone gets personal with me.
 
#29 ·
@hood
im similar to you in regards of conflict; id be totally fine confronting someone and i do it when i have to but would rather just not fight about anything C:

im new here, but im an INFP and a 9.

i can daydream the day away too, and i get caught up in the way i think things should be instead of realizing how great they are as they are C::laughing:
 
#35 ·
Im an INFP and a 9w1. I've only recently descovered this whole personality thing, and i'm amazed at how accurate it was for me (i'm a natural skeptic ofcourse). I have to say that I'm proud I am what I am. It's not easy being us, from my own experience, and from what i've read amongst us. But alot of amazing people have been INFPs atleast (not so sure when combining enneagram ideas) and we are capable of amazing things.

Personally, I feel like i'm constantly searching for something. I also have a suspicion i'll never find it. I keep feeling like sometimes I find that place, but when i get there, it's not what I was after. So i've decided a life of chasing whims and good feelings is my bearing. I'm much the same, and avoid any personal conflict. Though i've notice when playing sport my personality can change, and I can become quite aggressive and unforgiving, almost an ESTJ I would say. It's very interesting when I undergo this change, it feels good, im not unsure and withdrawn, im in control and feeling the power.

I am interested in any creative outlets of 9w1 INFPs. Do we all have urges to express ourselves in some creative outlet? I myself play an intrument. I like to write songs. I enjoy poetry, I love words and the sound of words when perfectly used. I like to write, thoughts and feelings, ideas and philosophies, poems and storys. But of course i'm never satisfied, and never finish them. Does anyone else have this urge?
 
#36 ·
I score different on different sites on this site I score 2w3 9w1... as in my signature but on eclecticenergies.com I score 9w1 sx ( a little embarrased of the sx type :unsure:). I took both test twice ...

I can relate to what @Danwise and @moonradio was saying and can definitely relate to the type description that says 9's tend to take on the energies of people around them.

As for creative outlet - Yes I write alot, inspired writing, philosophical pieces and thoughts, songs, and other musings, I also sing and in my younger days I danced. I am terrible with getting lost when trying to formulate myself verbally ( I am still trying to understand why this is because it is something I frequently feel embarrassed about. I recently received a piece of good advice which was to carry a note book and jot down what I wanted to say before speaking.) In writing on the other hand I believe I am fairly clear in my expression. It is something I am very self conscious of and try to work on. Sometimes I succeed mostly I fail miserably and withdraw from social situations instead.

Being INFP shy reserved self conscious and a sociable mindful people person just creates a really strange contradiction and internal conflict of interest at times.

Just thoughts
 
#37 ·
Never knew this thread existed... thanks for bumping it!

Yeah, I am INFP and 9. Nearly everything in all the above posts sound like aspects of me. I abhor conflict. It exhausts me physically and emotionally very quickly. I fear it and avoid it at all costs. I do pick up the feelings of others around me and am affected by them very easily. It feels like I am out of control in some social situations and can get very anxious when I am uncomfortable with the vibe. Sometimes I can speak extemporaneously and do ok... be funny even. But more often I am always a half step behind myself and stumbling over my words.
 
#41 ·
Seconded here about difficulties facing conflict. I'm a very shy and passive person by nature and find it difficult to be aggressive (or even assertive, at times). If I'm around someone with a more forceful personality, I tend to fall silent and just take in what he or she is saying, then think about our conversation later and come to my own conclusions. I know what you mean about having social anxiety--it has been one of my biggest challenges. It can be very difficult to enter a situation that makes you uncomfortable and nervous, yet it's so necessary to learn to thicken your skin and contribute to the world in your rightful place (although the process is extremely gradual and frustrating). It helps me to look back and realize how far I've come over the years, even if there is still a long way to go.