OK, yet another INTJ question from me. I recently started popping up amongst an old group of friends, infrequently, but more often than I had for the past year or so. An INTJ friend that belongs to this old group of friends does not come out very often when I'm out with the group anymore--but he used to all the time. He recently offered to get me into his gym for free and I took him up on the offer, and had a nice time catching up. Since then, he still avoids going out when I'm with the group (but he may do this with or without me there, not sure) unless he has to attend, like for a birthday. When I do actually see him out with friends, he is very, very quiet at first, hardly looks at me, then, later in the night, eases up and becomes relatively chatty (probably with help from alcohol), and then leaves in the middle of the social event when I've used the restroom or went outside for a minute -- no goodbye, no word.
I guess I wouldn't find this too strange if he hadn't sneaked off numerous times years ago too. This behavior seems to happen more often when he hasn't had frequent contact with me in a while, like when I first started hanging out with the group, or after breaks in hanging out. It doesn't make much sense to me that he becomes friendly and then runs away (I admit, this is how I see it and probably not how he does).
Insight into this behavior?
I guess I wouldn't find this too strange if he hadn't sneaked off numerous times years ago too. This behavior seems to happen more often when he hasn't had frequent contact with me in a while, like when I first started hanging out with the group, or after breaks in hanging out. It doesn't make much sense to me that he becomes friendly and then runs away (I admit, this is how I see it and probably not how he does).
Insight into this behavior?