I think both ISFJs and ESFJs can be "mom" stereotypes. The ESFJ is more of the "soccer mom" who organizes PTA meetings and shit and the ISFJ is more of the stay-at-home housekeeper mom type.

 

i'd say I'm very loving, and family and friendship are the things I value the most in the world. but I couldn't say I'm very harsh towards people who do harm. I'm more likely to redeem them and find excuses for them. I'm not someone bad people should be afraid of, as much as I'd like that:happy:.

As for tradition, it's true that I feel comfortable and safe with tradition and stability. I'm drawn to religion because it attempts to explain life, and it bothers me very much if I can't explain something. I know that these attempted explanations are very often insufficient, but the very belief that there exist an explanation gives me stability of mind.

To answer your main question, I suppose that if being nurturing and caring is stereotypically maternal, then ISFJs are "mother type". Personally I don't see why this is important. "mother type", like all other stereotypes, is just a name. In reality good parenthood requires other characteristics that ISFJs may or may not possess.

 

Well I suck at multitasking so no. I'm a monotasker - definitely not a mom characteristic. Yeah I care about people and will both teach and help them, but I don't think that makes me maternal.

 

Or Dad type.

 

by your definition i am definitely maternal in nature. I care a great deal about those types of people/animals you listed. I will help anyone within the boundary of our relationship. the type of problem I will help with depends on who you are to me. closer you are to me, the more I will do for you.

lol while I do not tolerate evil doing, I could clear less about small transgressions people do. with that said, if I were asked to participate, be prepared to get a ear full. I found people who are irresponsible and selfish to be most annoying, however if your selfishness/ irresponsibility does not affect the well being of others, I wouldn't give a crap. if their action will harm others, I wouldn't be cruel to them, rather I would try to understand them, and remind them that there are other people living in this world.


I will definitely prefer my hypothetical kid to be in a field where they can make enough money to live a comfortable life. I feel passion is very important, however a passion without a mean to survive, is very immature view on life. one can always pursuit their passion as a hobby.

 

My younger sister, who's 15, is an ISFJ and I've noticed a difference in our attitudes towards children.

They (kids) seem to be drawn to her, even if she doesn't seem to be calling for them or catching their attention in another way.

I myself, can't stand being around kids that are older than 3yrs old. Around the age they start talking basically. Something about them makes me feel awkward. But I love babies (probably because they're small, chubby and can't talk).

 

I'm the opposite actually (INFP here). I like older kids but babies literally get on my nerves with their crying and loudness. I don't have anything against them personally, but I'm physically uncomfortable being around them unless they're very quiet and calm.

 

I never thought I was a caregiver type, until my niece fell asleep on me when I rocked her. Her mom said it was because I was so calm. I have found that I was good with babies, even though I didn't actively seek them out to hold or interact with. I was really good with my own kids when they were babies.

I just dislike it when parents pass their baby to me so they don't have to deal with it.

 

Children adore me.

I think kids are like cats. They find the person who doesn't know what one DOES with children or cats, and latch onto them.

I don't mind kids. I have a passive approach to them, and to parenting -- if they're not hurting anything or wreaking havoc, let them be kids. Let them get dirty. Let them play. Don't force them to interact if they don't want to.

I used to think, "Hahaha, not a mothering type at all," and then I realized how I am with my cat when she's outside (where is she? does she want back in?! I'M COMING PRECIOUS!) and realized that yes, underneath all my BS about not being a hover-mom, I am. I don't intentionally set out to take care of people, but I wind up doing it and I feel no resentment in having to do it; it's just... that's how life is. You get saddled with hardship, or a problem child, or an autistic sibling, you learn to adapt. No biggie.