[ForsakenMe]

Oh, I used to mistake myself for an ENFP once.

1. Meeting new people / strangers
Reserved and shy. But I'm nice, just slow to warm up and to trust, but once you get there...

2. Hanging out with good friends
People say I'm crazy in a good way. Just very humorous, talkative, huggy, with just some moments of quietness as I observe others.

3. With family
Pretty much the same. Sometimes I just like to sit and watch TV with them quietly.

4. Any other categories lol...
On the internet, I'm a star. :kitteh:

What about body language? Eye contact? Does your Ne go wild, and how? Would you be mistaken for an ENFP?
My body language seems normal. My eye contact needs work, though. Don't know how my Ne would go wild, honestly. And people do strongly believe I'm just a hyper introvert.

Also, how often are you really shy? Does meeting new people make you nervous?

 

[cyamitide]

Hello! Okay, so are you bubbly/outgoing/talkative in these situations?

If you meet INFP so/sx or sx/so (these are INFPs who prioritize social and sexual instincts) then they can have strong social skills and come off as bubbly: SP, SX, SO Instinct Variants and Stackings

INFPs sp/sx tend to be homebodies.

 

[Sino425]

I vary between totally silent and occassionally very gregarious. The joys of having 4 and 9, and conversely 7 in your tritype!

1. There's no consistent trend. When meeting new people in some kind of environment where I know we share a common interest, like on a music or politics event, then I'm okay. But randomly meeting new people, unless I feel responsible to, is not going to see me at my most overt.

2. I'm loudest when I'm with close friends that understand me but I still might go quiet for a few minutes then rejoin the world of the living.

3. Pretty quiet around my family usually. Too scared of causing conflict, too many values being crushed. It's been okay for the last few days but generally I avoid my family. And then the extended family gatherings, or when we have family friends over... I just go completely quiet because they're all sensors and they all don't give a shit about anything I'm interested in. Not that they're not good people, because they are - but they have very different concerns to me in life, and are very different people to me.

4. At parties, it really does vary too. A small gathering (less than 20) with people I really like is absolutely fine for me to manage, and I'll be really Ne fueled and witty at times and take a step back when I need to recharge a little. But bigger gatherings where the music isn't very good (a.k.a. the music is wildly popular in the last 3 years), where I'm not comfortable with all the people there, are horrible. I either spend all my time looking after people and get incredibly exhausted very very quickly, or just retreat inside my head and find a guitar and escape from everyone for several hours. No one realises I was gone until I get back.

I am also have 4, 9 and 7 in my tritype. 4w5,9w1,7w1 to be exact. My tendencies towards being talkative are pretty similar though more often than not around anyone I prefer not to talk, or not to be pressured to talk. I'll be bubbly when I wanna gadamit :frustrating:

 

[AnnieeBubble]

Lol thanks for basically explaining my entire inner workings too @milti ! xD Hehe great post!

 

[Me_Myself_And_I]

I force myself to be warm and outgoing when I meet new people, to the point of being drained for days afterward if it's a large group.


I dislike inane chitchat and quickly turn the conversation to the other person so I can listen without having to both talk and run ahead of the conversation quite so much.



I could be mistaken for being an ENFP when my INTP husband and I are on an adventure. I feel secure because he's with me and I don't have to worry someone will mis-read my friendly intensity for more than it is.


Have you considered approaching the question from another point of view? I've heard the best way to determine between one type and another when you're just not sure is to look at your response to stress.

 

[Chell]

1. Meeting new people / strangers
Not likely. I'm usually very... very polite. Too polite, in fact.

2. Hanging out with good friends
Depends... a lot... my ego is too unstable... ... ... I feel that I'm very lucky to have found friends who can handle me at my "worst", because my worst is pretty ugly. Anyway, I like being bubbly, so I can be pretty bubbly at times. Um, I was bubbly today, and it was fun while it lasted, but... But then I was like "wtf, I'm tired" and went back to my usual complaining self. It's much easier to handle, and much more annoying to myself as well.

3. With family
Well, no, I'm not bubbly around my family. Sometimes I am around my dad, because that's who I'm most comfortable around, but it often ends up pissing him off and conflict arises. (hint: he's a handbook ENTJ /feelsbadman) I'm "neutral" towards most, and an asshole towards my grandma, ngl. That's because she's the only person I feel really comfortable with. And I'm in a bad mood much more often than not. But when we interact freely it's great, because we can really interact on a childish level, it's lots of fun and yes I'm very bubbly around her when I'm in a good mood.

4. Any other categories lol...
...sometimes I'm bubbly on the internet. But lately I haven't been doing so well, so no, not bubbly.
But, simply put, my glass is half-empty, it takes a loooot for me to be in a ~100%~ good mood but when I am it's the best and I'm the biggest, bubbliest, silliest child. Um. I dunno.

(also, I'm veeeeeeeeeeeeery private so I tend to filter my Ne through lots of T. Can't let it run wild, nope, too much madness goes on inside.)

 

[narwhalcupcake]

I'm usually very, VERY shy at first... I have a hard time talking to new people :sad: I get sorta awkward, uncomfortable, and really avoid eye contact. I will pretty much look everywhere BUT at your face when you talk. I also sometimes get so nervous that I'll start sweating...:blushed: But once you get to know me I am pretty bubbly, though it depends on how you approach me (whether I know you or not). If you are a happy person, then I'll be in a happy, good mood. For example, my grandma is mellow, and kinda just melancholy, so I'll be calm as well. But I'm naturally an optimist so I'm not really ever melancholy-ish. With friends, well my inner Ne comes out, once I am comfortable with you I'm more outgoing, loud, goofy, weird, maybe a bit humorously creepy *does evil laugh*... Body language when I'm comfortable would be more towards the happy, curious side. Anyway, sorry if I rambled on too much :kitteh: Cheerio!

 

[OrangeAppled]

I am never, ever bubbly and find the very notion gross. Feisty, passionate, silly - those are better words for when I come out of my shell.

That said...

1. Meeting new people / strangers - usually no

2. Hanging out with good friends - occasionally, but talkative for me is "normal" for other people.

There's some great section in Shop Girl (yes, the Steve Martin novel) where the (likely INFP) girl is described as seeing herself as VERY animated when she does come out of her shell, but just appearing "normal" and not so withdrawn to others. That's me to a T. When I am "animated" I feel almost obnoxious and too intense, but I've realized it often just seems like a more regular, open demeanor to others. Sometimes though, I am too intense, and the response I get makes me withdraw again.

3. With family - See above... I'm know for being very quiet, serious, morose even, intermittent with the above-mentioned feistiness & silliness. I can be quite sardonic... sometimes I'm argumentative. When I talk a lot, it's mostly to analyze something. Only a few people have the patience for this.

What about body language? Eye contact? Does your Ne go wild, and how? Would you be mistaken for an ENFP?

I might be most mistaken for an ENFP in banter with someone I have a connection with, but even then, my usual self would give enough context to show I am no ENFP. I find ENFPs much more "positive" than I am...when I am really, really "on", it's not as cute as an ENFP, but more like a violent burst.

I remember once I went to a dinner party hosted by another INFP and her ENxP husband, both of whom I liked a lot and felt quite comfortable with. I had an "on" night. It was all clever quips, albeit many delivered rather drily from me. The ENxP was delighted and invited me back soon. The next time, I was silent and morose, and he was very disappointed...

Also, how often are you really shy? Does meeting new people make you nervous?

I am truly shy with new people, who do make me nervous. It takes a long time for me to warm up. The rest of the time I am just quiet/reserved because that's me.

 

[Sily]

1. Talkative: Sometimes. Usually with people I know and I'm comfortable with.
2. Outgoing: Haha... usually never.
3. Bubbly: Sometimes. Usually with people I know or with subjects I get *excited* about.

I'd say 95% of the time my energy level with people is pretty low, calm, reserved, even, nice, friendly, watching & agreeable, steady as she goes.

 

[Nightshade]

1. Meeting new people / strangers
I'm reserved when I meet people until there is that perfect topic that comes up that can turn into a stimulating conversation, other than that, I make little effort to talk to strangers or unless I need to.

2. Hanging out with good friends
I'm very engaging with good friends who I am comfortable with. My Fi kicks into gear and I enter this high state. I'm very engaging and like talking to friends who I can have a back and forth conversation with.

3. With family
I'm neutral. I don't always feel a 100% comfortable with them. I've always felt a little bit of an outcast around them, so I pick and choose what I should and shouldn't say. I don't take the initiative to express my Fi with them, instead, I feel like a therapist.

4. Any other categories lol...
I talk to a few coworkers, but I adjust my persona according to the person. I like these relationships because there is no expectation. There is a barrier. I can keep them at arms length. They don't know me as well as they probably think, so they can't hurt me.

What about body language?
I have been told I look tense and uncomfortable, and I probably do. I sometimes have my arms crossed.

Eye contact?
I give eye contact to those I am attentive to. I don't feel comfortable doing this with strangers. Eye contact is my way of saying: I care, I'm listening, and you can trust me. Those who aren't close to me I avoid eye contact, it just seems to intimate to gaze in strangers eyes, or even coworkers I don't talk to.

Does your Ne go wild, and how? Would you be mistaken for an ENFP?
My Ne tries to figure people out. Tied to Fi, I try to make sense of their values, and if they don't have any that I care for, I may not care to engage in conversation. I try to make connections with people I feel I can connect with on a deep level. I love listening to peoples experiences, their history, and their hardships. If all they care for is the mundane... I will get bored. I also adjust my persona to help connect with the individual - making the connections in how we can relate and understand each other.

Also, how often are you really shy? Does meeting new people make you nervous?
Yeah, I can be shy. I don't throw myself into a lot of social situations, but when I've dated I've been shy, but mostly from the expectations. Certain types of people intimidate me and I'm not sure how to act and my Ne overwhelm me with self-doubt.

 

[robespierre]

just 2 and 3. im incredibly silly although those who fall into category 1 would have no idea