Why do you think we have a stereotype for being goofy, happy-go-lucky people-people? from personal experience and from what other people have been saying I think the whole paranoia about whether people like us or not is a pretty common issue. We strive to be loved/accepted, and for me anyway, the slightest hint that anyone doesn't like me upsets me for quite a while even if I have agreat group of friends behind me.

Fi makes us hide our hurt away and makes us unwilling to tell people when we're hurting, which is why people don't realise we get upset to - we just don't like to show it :L More than once after a social event I've had a mini breakdown over something someone said/how someone acted even though I laughed it off at the time and kept being my usual happy, outgoing self.

 

I can completely relate to that! I can have all the friends in the world but if one person doesn't like me I won't stop probing until I know why and after i've exhausted myself with trying to win them over I don't like not being liked..

 

Paranoia that everyone hates you under stress...is generally associated with ENTP.

If you just have a general vibe that people don't like you even when not stressed, that might be more ENFP.

 

I have a feeling that'd be more associated with enneagram than anything function wise, although an argument could be made over tertiary Fe fears. It's also most likely just a symptom of depression. :tongue:

 

It's actually provoked by the inferior.....Si. Since ENxP are generally negligent of details, when stressed we become hyperaware of details. Since we aren't used to paying attention to details at all, suddenly being aware of several potentially negative details causes us to obsess over how potentially negative the situation might be, as opposed to the hyper-optimistic state we are used to having when inattentive to details.

ENFP with Si/Te inf/tert tend to obsess about others thinking them incompetent or generally unfit for the job, whenever they do something wrong on the job, when stressed. They constantly have a feeling they will be fired or "found out" that they aren't that good at their job after all, after even a few details surface that could potentially be interpreted as negative (but in reality probably aren't negative at all).

 

It's actually provoked by the inferior.....Si. Since ENxP are generally negligent of details, when stressed we become hyperaware of details. Since we aren't used to paying attention to details at all, suddenly being aware of several potentially negative details causes us to obsess over how potentially negative the situation might be, as opposed to the hyper-optimistic state we are used to having when inattentive to details.

I wouldn't describe all Ne doms as "hyper-optimistic". Ne of ENxPs who are Enneagram 6 for instance is likely to think up a zillion things that could possibly go wrong and freak out about them.

ENFP with Si/Te inf/tert tend to obsess about others thinking them incompetent or generally unfit for the job, whenever they do something wrong on the job, when stressed. They constantly have a feeling they will be fired or "found out" that they aren't that good at their job after all, after even a few details surface that could potentially be interpreted as negative (but in reality probably aren't negative at all).

couldn't have said it better myself

 

I do this thing all the time where I act like I don't give a shit about anything because it hurts less..
I assume that everyone can see through it but I keep it up all the same..
Act like everything's great when in reality I'm hugely concerned about my emotional state..
I've seen from threads on here that ENFPs have a little bit of a rep for 'Not caring'
Is that true?

I get quieter and more formal under stress. people can tell that there's a problem, but I can at least hide most of it so that they perceive it to be less of a big deal than it actually is. if I was going through a relationship crisis or on the verge of tears, people will likely just think "he's in a bad mood"
if one were to look at my life as a basketball game, Ne is one of my starter players and, most of the time, dominates my personality. when I'm stressed or experiencing a severe loss, Ne takes a seat on the bench to recuperate while Te takes his place.

I get really paranoid and self-conscious and assume that everyone hates me..
Any other ENFPs like this?

I assume everyone hates me, but it's not from a self conscious standpoint. I actually get a bit of an ego boost out of it, only later to be disappointed and figure out "oh, I'm actually pretty normal".

Some people have said that they can't imagine an ENFP ever being unhappy, why is this?

because some people are stupid and assume that being playful and high energy means you're always happy.

PS: I don't know if this has to do with being an ENFP as much as it does being an adult functioning in the professional world. when we go into work, we're there to get the job done and dwelling on negative emotions on the job would only get in the way, make us appear weak or cause us to lose the respect of our coworkers and employers.

 

Well, that's true about me. Very few people actually see the real me. I show them what I want to show them... and I'm pretty good at it. I can make people believe anything about me, and they totally buy it. Not to say I'm very manipulative... but I could be if I let go of my morals and stopped caring about people. Only when I decide to let them in deeper do they get a glimpse of my true intensity, and they're always surprised. I feel like no one could ever understand how much and how deeply I actually feel. It's so powerful that I'm often afraid of it and it's better off concealed where it can't be used recklessly. Anyone that I care about has the ability to destroy me, but they don't see it.