[Jamie.Ether]

Yeah. I guess I get more often just plain serious rather than stoic, but I know it's happened.
I think it's the I and J combo that makes for the serious streak. And my Fe makes it easy to joke with people, be kinda warm and friendly.
But there are some times where I will kind of "go cold".
An example, that's happened a few times lately, is: I have a group of friends who I hang out with often. Some of them are really funny and are always making the group laugh. But there are a few subjects that I don't think are to be joked about. Mainly with that group [it's just a few people who tell these kind of jokes] but they will suddenly throw in a joke about race or religion, and I guess I get stoic then. Maybe if I thought they were actually being 100 percent sacrastic I would be able to laugh. But I can't approve of discriminating against people due to their race and faith.
I know they've seen me get serious, and though I didn't say anything, I know they were wondering "what is her problem?" but that's okay.
One person in that group likes to make fun of Christians. I am a Christian and they know that. So at the very least, I think it's disrespectful for them to make those kind of jokes when I'm sitting right there.
It's not only Christian jokes that bug me though. We have one friend who hangs out with our group sometimes who is Muslim. I remember them making a joke about Muslims one day when he was there. I looked over at him and he wasn't laughing at all. I could tell that it hurt his feelings and made him feel super uncomfortable. I walked out of the room then.

 

[Tsuki]

We just take life too seriously. :tongue:

I think it's the dominant Ni/inferior Se. We're weighed down by heavy insights and values that we've developed, which sometimes makes it hard to just let go of everything and be free birds. Especially if Fe is shaved down a bit by strong Ti.

 

[dianne]

Interesting. Well, it explains why I am mistaken as an INTJ too often. Hmm. I think everyone has a potential to be serious. For INFJs, it could be because of our introverted selves. In addition, I know I tend to think more than most people I know.. I live inside my mind. I was told that I appear upset and serious, but I was only thinking. In addition, there is this tendency to not burden people with my problems so I'm very private about my emotions. Yet, I have a tendency to the opposite of "seriousness." With a few people I know well, I can be teasing and silly.

 

[Goetterdaemmerung]

I would call myself a serious person, and sometimes not lol.

However it really depends who I am around, if I am in public I keep to myself and stay quiet as to not draw attention to myself.


If I am around friends, or with my brother and friends, I usually am the one who is the most overtly emotional!

 

[Westy365]

Being married to an INFJ, and knowing lots of NF's, I'd say that INFJ's generally tend to be the most stoic of the NF types.

 

[odinthor]

If I have any creed, it's classical Stoicism; but I'm as lighthearted as that framework will allow. Endurance, with a laugh.

 

[00Hikaru00]

I may be one of the few more light-hearted INFJs. I appear serious but my inner child bursts out very often. When I'm stoically staring at you, I can actually be thinking something funny (about you or the situation) and you won't know until I burst into laughter. People who don't know me think that I'm very serious and no-nonsense (which I can be at times) but the truth is I'm more often light-hearted and I can be creatively funny. My favourite quote is "To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funny bone." I don't like anything too pessimistic.

My INFJ friend and I can get quite giggly. Once we start laughing, we can't stop and we laugh until we tear. Some people don't understand our sense of humour.

It seems that a lot of INFJs on PerC are rather serious. I once started a thread to get everyone to tell a funny story that happened to them but I hardly got responses... LOL.

 

[TalNFJ]

I don't really understand the question, since it can vary quite a lot between each person regardless of type.

 

[Drecon]

Way to dig up a five years old thread...

I personally think it's weird to compare NF-types. We share no cognitive functions at all with XNFP's.

One interesting thing I've picked up from the thread by the way: the comment that there are a few INFJ comedians.
Interesting thing about comedians: most of them aren't really all that outspoken or even happy in their personal lives. A lot of them are actually clinically depressed... Don't base your decision of someone on a snapshot of their lives (which also goes towards typing people you don't really know all too well)

 

[Goetterdaemmerung]

Way to dig up a five years old thread...

I was looking at typology related stuff. This thread popped up on the search engine, I couldn't help but reply...

Others are of-course replying, it's nice to get some perspective from the more recent users, of which I am greatly appreciating.

 

[Snowflake Minuet]

I would agree that INFJs are the most serious/stoic of the NFs--at least certainly from the outside! We are also often referred to as the coldest of the feelers, which I and I know a number of other INFJs have thought is very true too. Kind of ironic as I think our personality type's main drive is the happiness of others/deep connections, and we are really quite warm, but it's about the exterior and the unfamiliar in this case, the public face if you will.

People have always told me I seem so calm and in control of things, like with schoolwork, and it always surprises me a little since that's not necessarily the case from my perspective! But yeah, I think we can appear as very stoic, serious, and even "cold." I know I'm not the only INFJ around here who has mentioned that I feel like much more of a playful person on the inside, as well as in situations where I'm comfortable enough to let that inside person out! I can be quite silly around people I know well and whose company I enjoy. That Grace Kelly quote I shared a couple times recently relates to this quality of the INFJ for me.