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What are INFPs afraid of?

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#1 ·
What are you guys afraid of?

- Asked by an ISTP.
 
#3 ·
Gorillas, spiders, storm drains, steep heights with no protective barrier, and falling (like tripping down stairs or falling on ice or down a hill). Flying makes me nervous, but I get used to it after a while. Also roller coasters that have hills. I'm terrified of ghost/demon stories or movies.
Having no one that cares about me, not achieving my goals in my life.

Yeah, that's pretty much it.. I don't mind needles or speaking in public, and I like dolls and really like snakes. But put me in front of gorillas at the zoo and I'll want to leave immediately.
 
#8 ·
I know ISTPs are known as fearless, but these are my biggest fears. I guess they are more practical ones.

Death is a big one.

Losing family and being alone (romantic love wise).

Getting cancer.

Being immobile.

Jail.

Getting kidnapped, being in a situation where I can't escape and would be imprisoned by a sick fuck, or getting killed.

Mental wards.

Life threatening diseases, bugs, and animals.
 
#13 ·
Literally everything except death. However, the 'everything' there largely includes dying, so yeah.

Although the top ones are in no particular order:
Being alone forever, being alone for long periods of time if not forever, not having someone to love, not being loved, spiders, heights, paralysis, all kinds of horrible deaths, having anything happen to someone I care about and I'm not there, having anything happen to someone I care about while I was there and I wasn't able to do anything, thermonuclear war, happiness, people of the same sex as me, people of the opposite sex to me, any people not covered sufficiently by the former two categories probably in that order, spiders, spider webs, anything that looks like a spider web, anything that makes reference to spiders or spider webs, sadness, not ever catching up with reading, not being forgiven, my face, my body generally, getting any uglier, being pushed away by people I care about, being seen as genuinely bad rather than good bad by anyone in a position to make an accurate judgement, being too inferior to anyone I care about, roller-coasters, the world, not being able to fight, people in positions of control who I am unable to affect through reason or otherwise attack, growing up, being older than 17, being younger than 17, being older than 27, Yellowstone erupting, the rich and powerful, the future, not being able to play any instrument, having poor judgement, not having sufficient self-awareness, being illogical and unaware of it, disappointing anyone I care about, being really poor, being controlled, being unable to protect or provide in any way, being thought of badly by or failing anyone I actually care about, anyone who walks or stands behind me, the law, having to submit to anyone I don't want to, not having artistic ability after all, having one but not both of either the equipment or training necessary to save someone's life if it ever falls to me, spiders, conscription, idiots, my past, not having a contingency plan, any authority of any kind at all whatsoever, not being able to fuck anything up if I find it necessary, people I care about generally, being unable to garner any respect from the peasantry, anyone finding out my past whom I have not revealed it to, anyone finding out my old name once I get my new name, meeting new people who have heard of me, having my inner weakness shown around someone who I don't know or trust with it, having anyone I don't want to see through me see through me. Spiders.

Although I do have my moments where I remember that death doesn't scare me and I really do stop being afraid of pretty much anything. Those moments are nice.
They don't happen often, though. Typically when shit is really bad anyway.
 
#14 ·
I'm really scared of losing my pets and the important people in my life. I have no idea how I am going to cope when one of them eventually dies, it's gonna be devostating.

I'm also a bit afraid of water. I can swim but I don't really like it, I'm really scared of situations where I might drown. Going underwater without swimming goggles is the most horrifying thing I know, it just makes me feel so trapped. Even as a kid I was always terrified of moviescenes that involved ships in a stormy weather, like in Anastasia or the Little Mermaid (I still loved those films to bits).
 
#15 ·
Being alone- in the sense of no one understanding me, who I am, or caring enough to try to.
Spiders.
Monotony.
Insanity.

I don't think often of the last two though. Just when I get in a slump and things are getting monotonous. Fears rise then. And go away once I'm get on with it. I think I equate monotony with insanity and that terrifies me, so I avoid monotony.
 
#20 ·
Well a fair bit was for comedic effect, but seriously? I don't think I'm more afraid of things generally than most people. I am genuinely not afraid of death (I think...), which I think is the main thing there which sets me apart more than anything else.
I just think I'm more aware of and settled with my extensive array of fears than perhaps many people are. Everyone's scared, but I'm not really sure everyone got the memo or read all of it. I've spent a lot of time with fear, I just think I'm self-aware enough that denying or negating any of it doesn't really fool me anymore.
My tritype probably doesn't help though. :unsure:
 
#21 ·
Spiders, crowds, most bugs, and talking on the damn phone. That's the worst one. Lately I've started developing claustrophobia though, like when I went to see As Above, So Below and the guy gets caught between two walls that are caving in or something (I forgot what happens exactly, it was a waste of time for a horror movie tbh they could have done SOOO much better with it. Cool concept, horrible execution.) and I almost had a panic attack in the theater. Cramped spaces don't bother me really, it's just the ones that might kill me if they collapse that freak me out.
 
#22 ·
My fears:
1) Heights(although I purposely try to conquer my fear by placing myself on high things which is hilarious, afterward anyway)
2) Never finding someone who understands me and the way I think(mainly another INFP in a physical sense)
3) loneliness in general
4) myself/way I think(I hate not being able to figure out an answer to a problem while knowing the way I see the problem is the reason I can't fix it. The way I think in general can be very chaotic when combined with unchecked/bottled emotions. [Note: not saying I'm a walking psychopath, just mean I think to much sometimes])
5) needles, specifically the ones used to inject unknown substance A into my blood stream.(shots, blood drawn, and the like)

-edit-
6) Clowns... I hate clowns...
 
#23 ·
Spiders and Bugs (especially moths): They are evil. Literally, evil.

Not finding my purpose in life: I hope I find out before I die, that'd be disappointing if I didn't.

Rejection: I just assume people don't like me, so that I don't bother trying to make friends anymore.

Public Humiliation: I honestly relive most life events involving this...

Diseases: self explanatory??

Not finding someone attractive and compatible and/or dying alone or with someone I dislike: I attract two types of douchebags. The atheletic douche bag and the I'm better than everyone and treat others like shit pothead douche bag. What is wrong with me?!

Crying in public.

Supernatural stuff that I do not ever EVER want to encounter.

and much more that just shouldn't be shared...with anyone.
 
#27 ·
Judgement/condemnation, fierce hatred, losing myself in the pursuit of pleasing/blending with others, living a life contrary to what I know to be true or right.

And of course the usual of losing loved ones.

Those are really the main things that can put my stomach into knots.
 
#28 ·
One of my biggest fears is dying before my thoughts and ideas have been shared across the world. I also fear the absurd to a great degree. Oh, and dying quickly and unexpectedly. I would much rather die of cancer than a brain aneurysm. A very strong statement, I know, but that is personally how I feel. I would much rather endure the pain while coming to terms with the end, rather than not being given the chance to prepare for the end.