How does an ISTP act when in love?

cattlemutilation · Mar 19, 2016

The Lawyer said:
Eh, you're young, you might get there one day, but I hope that you don't. Not all men do it but some of them do, and this is something that happens with age. The older guys are, the more they do it.

I don't think he will get there. From what I've gathered from other ISTPs and myself personally is that the first sign of mind games we see we're out. We don't waste time with that. Same thing with power moves. That is more of a Te dom/Te aux thing. I expect mind and power games to come from NTJs, not TPs, but especially ITPs. And, since we don't like the idea of someone playing mind games or power games with us we wouldn't do that to anyone else. The fact that you said you have never really had ISTPs in your circle leads me to think that you've mistyped some men as Ti doms.

Yamato · Mar 19, 2016

like 80s rom/com/action movie . think of all the steroetype 80s movie hero's and how they act in love . bit like they lost in a area they dont know , while trying to be positif humuros and sarcastic while saving the day on a funny rom/com/action packed way .

Yuky · Mar 19, 2016

From experience:
Goofy smile when your'e just making normal conversation with them or they catch you doing something different and abnormally you-ish. Look at you very intensely when you speak. Fairly normal behaviors.

Sometimes when they really like you they'll make you something cool.

I think the reason a couple of istps have liked me in the past was because I figured out their sense of humor very quickly and they sort of latched on to that.

Iv'e seen istps get along quite well with esfps on an Se level. The design of this, the price of that and so on. Saw some istp esfp strangers bond over a similarly strong hatred of traffic once. They could have gone on forever...
They communicate and strategize very well together, istps opting for high precision and esfps for maximization of time and recourses. Both have a lot of appreciation for the others strategies and seem to have fun experimenting with them.
They're also both very adventurous and slightly subversive so they get along at that level as well.
It's hard for me to imagine istps and esfps not getting along really.

Iv'e never met an esfp as thoughtful as you.. and if I have, they weren't anywhere near as articulate.
Maybe you'll have an easier time with istps if you relax a little around them?

Also I'm not sure I believe what you say about esfps being great people readers. The ones I know do make scarily accurate character calls on occasion, but are mostly confused all the time.
One of them would tell people what they thought their motives were and would try to figure them out based on how offended they got. Of course everyone saw strait through it and used it to mess with them. So.
Maybe reading people is more a you thing as well.

Angel26 · May 8, 2018

This is an interesting thread. As expected, I disagree. To answer the question; "ISTP's how do they act when they are in love?" I read this interesting article about this topic. It said ISTP partners might never get a closer love display than intimacy. Thinking back on it, my first love I wanted sex very badly, and could never bring myself to say anything at all to her, I picked her flowers off a bush, I ran errands for her, & I did whatever she asked I have never felt someone have that much control over me. I fell in love again, but this one did not last long. I tried holding hands, I tried making love, and dedicating songs that explained what I could never say but she just went to other people that did not give what I thought I was trying to. I felt disrespected. Life went on then I got in a religion I realized my goals and this relationship would never work. So I chose my religion. Years passed and there was not a day that would go by that she didn't cross my mind. I missed her and tried to get over her but I couldn't, I tried getting back together one last time and of course it didn't work out....this was difficult to read, too much in between the lines. It's kind of mind boggling you need to be more direct.

lifeinterminals · May 8, 2018

If you don't explode when they walk away, they probably like you.

Angel26 · May 8, 2018

As long as they don't have someone else on the side and lying about it.

Purpleblue · May 14, 2018

Hi, lifeinterminals, what do you mean?

Rascal01 · Aug 2, 2018

You pose an interesting question. As an ISTP, it calls for self-examination and a bit of reflection.

There may be no pat answer. Age or maturity level of the ISTP may come into play, as well as his level of romantic interest.

The first thing the ISTP will have to deal with is himself. He may not know how to respond to you initially, and may take cues from your behavior. He may be assessing himself and you as the situation grows and clarifies.

If he is smitten and real love blossoms, the lady he loves will very likely be his one and only. Though he may glance at a passing beauty you will own his heart. There will be no other.

Will he be affectionate? Count on it. Love would have it no other way.

If love dies, he won’t pretend it hasn’t. It will be over.

Zoel.fahmi · Aug 10, 2018

play hard to get, otherwise I don't care

ai.tran.75 · Apr 30, 2019

The Lawyer said:
What are the typical signs? How do ISTPs show their romantic affection, if they do at all?

What do ISTPs want from a person they like, besides the obvious? What do they respond to well? What makes them melt?

Not an istp but I've been with mine for 14 years .
My partner opens up about everything to me- the action is extremely loud.

For my case - my istp fell for me because I understand him and accept his flaws ( he has many)also hes able to open up and talk to me, I learned that he often avoid conflicts with others in his life .
A lot of istp show loves through action, but I think for their case they need somebody who's there for them with both action and words ( course I might be bias because I gathered this information from the istp- that I know irl) words as in talk to them- tell them what needs to be fixed in a way that isnt offensive- ask them question that they enjoy answering to , active listener
Somebody who would sit up at night or anytime and listen to their fear- worries- what they're angry at or excited about and genuinely want to listen and help them introspect better . Someone they can rely on and trust with private information- and course somebody who will step up - do their own thing and independent and doesn't expect verbal confirmation from them - honesty - my istp got mad at me for lying to him that I'll clean the house later and then forget to clean one of the bedrooms - so the truth to them is extremely important ( even when the other person didn't know that they were lying)

Signs of falling in love differ then when they're actually in love . My istp told me he was fearful of falling in love with me - out of fear of getting hurt so he hid his feelings- however the moment he thought he lost me and realized that he is in fact in love with me - it was a 6 months chase - he opens up about everything, tells me that losing me is losing half of him and that he rather have me in his life than nothing at all and if I ever have change of feelings he will wait but never push . I find istp to be very action oriented when they're showing love- my husband would talk to me until he hears me laugh on days that I'm stressed , he bought me a car - because mine was too old - he built a movie theater for me bc of my love of films ( but he never said it was for me, just for us- however he told all his friends it was a surprise for me)
Oddly enough my partner compliments me to his friends and family members more so than he does to me directly but it could be.

Um once in love - they go all in - it's quite loud actually- all the trusts - faith- devotion etc

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How does an ISTP act when in love?

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