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Confused by an INTP guy.

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#1 ·
This INTP guy and I were getting to know each other and liked each other, but due to distance it was difficult. We stopped talking..it just kind of happened no specific reason. He texted me the other day which surprised me since we haven't talked in 5 months. When he texted me he acted like nothing had changed. Why would he do this? What does this mean? I'm confused.
 
#2 ·
Time is relative:) I do that a lot. For you this is 5 months for him it's just been some time. I can stop talking with my closest friends for 1- 2 months(sometimes one year) and then just write to see if they are still alive and talk on a daily basis with them for 3 days just to stop talking again:p
 
#7 ·
Yeah, I think her concern is the whole texting 'game'. I've heard of this before, but I never really paid it any mind.

The texting 'game' is a game of flirtation, apparently, when the two parties involved try to avoid texting as much as possible without having the other party lose interest.

So if you respond too quickly or with too much information, you can be seen as too eager.

I never understood, so I just texted people at my own pace. That means the window between two texts can range anywhere between one second and a year. I think that most INTPs either a) don't understand the game or b) never cared to play, so your INTP guy probably didn't mean anything by the delayed time range.

He probably did think of you, but was too shy to text. Or in the worst case scenario, he kept procrastinating on texting you back.
 
#8 ·
I say B which equals A. If I like someone, I'm not going to play games. you either like me, or you don't. I am either good enough or I'm not. Either way, I am going come in like someone who is sincerely interested(which to most people equals eager I think), and if you reject me, I'm gone.

I'm an old man, I have no time for games.
 
#13 ·
ah, but we are spoiled by other people...

people that likely develop friendships more quickly, and generally have more friends everywhere they go...

while many of us are reduced to those bosom buddies and kindred spirits, having far fewer friends at any given time... but likely those friendships that build over a lifetime.

My, what antiquated creatures we are... no wonder we have such a collection of books.
 
#11 ·
I do this a lot. I think 5 months is a bit too much, but it's not hard to believe. My normal time is a couple of weeks.. I don't see or talk or text my college friends for a month or more, and then meet them like nothing happened. They go like "You bastard! You cut class so much omg long time" and I'm like "We're still the same people. Chill." Just tell him not to be so inconsistent. INTPs appreciate honesty. He won't say "She told me the truth. What a bitch!" so just tell him that.