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I have been hearing a lot about two Ni doms being in a relationship is rather chaotic. It's been quite easy for me and haven't had any issues. In fact it's been so easy I don't feel like either of us are even trying. It's just like, "Hey you want to watch anime and cry together?" "Sure, why not?". To clarify my partner dislikes emotional things unless it is with me, if someone is venting he often feels uncomfortable and seeks me out to comfort the person who needs help and give solid advice, since it's what I do best.
I recall someone comparing INTJs to cats in the way that if you let them warm up to you they will love and care for you and create a strong bond that seems hard to break. My INTJ boyfriend has a strict moral code, very similar to the one I hold myself to. He values moral consistency over everything. He is great at talking on morality and philosophical topics and often debates them. I've been getting him into psychology and we often talk for hours on both philosophy and psychology as well as the next step to being more morally consistent. We vent to each other and give each other advice when either of us need it. It's always very refreshing since he always let's me know how he's feeling when I ask. You don't get that often when you meet people these days.
I have autism so it is sometimes difficult to get my words out properly and being with him has really helped me since he is able to better word what I am trying to say and understand through the mess of (sometimes) broken sentences. When I'm not feeling too good and can't take the time or have energy to better my wording he'll step in and translate what I want to say for me and be a lovingly accommodating boyfriend. <3
From all I've stated here so far I think it's important to also state our enneagram tritype is the same all except for the wings and instinctual variants 1w2 5w4 3w4 sx/so (me) 1w9 5w6 3w4 so/sx (him). As well as the fact that our sociotypes are perfectly compatible ESI (me) ILI (him). We also have the same normative views and moral code. So the INFJ and INTJ chaos might not effect us much for those reasons. Even though I actually think INTJ X INFJ relationships can be good if both parties are mature, like any relationship.
This is my experience and I am curious to see what you all have to say from your experiences! I'm very happy with the result of my relationship. If you need any advice I'm here to listen or if you have any questions, ask away!
INFJ X INTJ
I have been hearing a lot about two Ni doms being in a relationship is rather chaotic. It's been quite easy for me and haven't had any issues. In fact it's been so easy I don't feel like either of us are even trying. It's just like, "Hey you want to watch anime and cry together?" "Sure, why not?". To clarify my partner dislikes emotional things unless it is with me, if someone is venting he often feels uncomfortable and seeks me out to comfort the person who needs help and give solid advice, since it's what I do best.
I recall someone comparing INTJs to cats in the way that if you let them warm up to you they will love and care for you and create a strong bond that seems hard to break. My INTJ boyfriend has a strict moral code, very similar to the one I hold myself to. He values moral consistency over everything. He is great at talking on morality and philosophical topics and often debates them. I've been getting him into psychology and we often talk for hours on both philosophy and psychology as well as the next step to being more morally consistent. We vent to each other and give each other advice when either of us need it. It's always very refreshing since he always let's me know how he's feeling when I ask. You don't get that often when you meet people these days.
I have autism so it is sometimes difficult to get my words out properly and being with him has really helped me since he is able to better word what I am trying to say and understand through the mess of (sometimes) broken sentences. When I'm not feeling too good and can't take the time or have energy to better my wording he'll step in and translate what I want to say for me and be a lovingly accommodating boyfriend. <3
From all I've stated here so far I think it's important to also state our enneagram tritype is the same all except for the wings and instinctual variants 1w2 5w4 3w4 sx/so (me) 1w9 5w6 3w4 so/sx (him). As well as the fact that our sociotypes are perfectly compatible ESI (me) ILI (him). We also have the same normative views and moral code. So the INFJ and INTJ chaos might not effect us much for those reasons. Even though I actually think INTJ X INFJ relationships can be good if both parties are mature, like any relationship.
This is my experience and I am curious to see what you all have to say from your experiences! I'm very happy with the result of my relationship. If you need any advice I'm here to listen or if you have any questions, ask away!
