Don't get me wrong, I love my fellow INFPs! However, there are times where I utterly despise some of my INFP friends.
I can't tell whether or not it's because they're unhealthy/underdeveloped, enneagram, or just plain individual character flaws.
My best friend is an INFP and we get along great. No fights or miscommunications and he never annoys me. He's probably the more normal and most stable INFP I know.
Other INFPs on the other hand... I noticed some thirst for attention and if you do not say or do what they want, they will feel hurt and start critizing how you don't care about their feelings.
One guy ranted to me about how he's tired of seeing everyone (including me) getting into relationships while he has been single for a year. When I told him about my new relationship, he said that he's happy but also apologized for ignoring the whole thing because he's not in the mood to talk about me. He always turns the conversation back on himself and his problems and his wants and needs and ahhhhh. He got mad at me because he told me that all he wanted to do was not settle and find a pretty, thin but curvy gf. I said his standards are quite high considering his situation, but if he wants that, ok, do it. He gets mad because I don't give him my opinion. But I just did! Like, if that's what you want, then do it. I don't know what more to say. This whole interaction is just annoying. It's like he wants a more specific answer to validate his statements. There are many times I wish to just drop these kinds of people but I don't because I don't want to hurt them and there are times when we do get along. Overly sensitive INFPs just get to me, I guess.
Another INFP guy friend of mine is super nice and cuddly and cute... but his sensitivity or mannerisms get to me little by little to the point where I am just annoyed or repulsed by his presence. Very opinionated, inconsiderate at times, and highly sensitive... I can only handle him in small doses. But then I feel horrible for being so annoyed because he's so nice to me! It's such a love hate relationship...
There are also INFPs who want to be so individualistic or are so self-centered that if you take the spotlight from them, they will hate you and no longer want to associate because they think they're better than you. I remember having an artist friend of mine introducing me to the game League of Legends. I picked it up quite fast and was a better player than her in no time. She started to resent playing with me, even though I would carry her in games. She unfollowed me and no longer kept in close contact. She's a great artist, and whenever I try to reconnect or give her some advice for future art career goals, she says her thanks but eventually just pushes me aside. I know she thinks I am no longer worth her time and that's how I started realizing that maybe that's how other INFPs just feel around each other.
So, do you guys dislike other INFPs sometimes? Do you think it has anything to do with enneagram/other underlying personality theories or just plain ole immaturity?
I can't tell whether or not it's because they're unhealthy/underdeveloped, enneagram, or just plain individual character flaws.
My best friend is an INFP and we get along great. No fights or miscommunications and he never annoys me. He's probably the more normal and most stable INFP I know.
Other INFPs on the other hand... I noticed some thirst for attention and if you do not say or do what they want, they will feel hurt and start critizing how you don't care about their feelings.
One guy ranted to me about how he's tired of seeing everyone (including me) getting into relationships while he has been single for a year. When I told him about my new relationship, he said that he's happy but also apologized for ignoring the whole thing because he's not in the mood to talk about me. He always turns the conversation back on himself and his problems and his wants and needs and ahhhhh. He got mad at me because he told me that all he wanted to do was not settle and find a pretty, thin but curvy gf. I said his standards are quite high considering his situation, but if he wants that, ok, do it. He gets mad because I don't give him my opinion. But I just did! Like, if that's what you want, then do it. I don't know what more to say. This whole interaction is just annoying. It's like he wants a more specific answer to validate his statements. There are many times I wish to just drop these kinds of people but I don't because I don't want to hurt them and there are times when we do get along. Overly sensitive INFPs just get to me, I guess.
Another INFP guy friend of mine is super nice and cuddly and cute... but his sensitivity or mannerisms get to me little by little to the point where I am just annoyed or repulsed by his presence. Very opinionated, inconsiderate at times, and highly sensitive... I can only handle him in small doses. But then I feel horrible for being so annoyed because he's so nice to me! It's such a love hate relationship...
There are also INFPs who want to be so individualistic or are so self-centered that if you take the spotlight from them, they will hate you and no longer want to associate because they think they're better than you. I remember having an artist friend of mine introducing me to the game League of Legends. I picked it up quite fast and was a better player than her in no time. She started to resent playing with me, even though I would carry her in games. She unfollowed me and no longer kept in close contact. She's a great artist, and whenever I try to reconnect or give her some advice for future art career goals, she says her thanks but eventually just pushes me aside. I know she thinks I am no longer worth her time and that's how I started realizing that maybe that's how other INFPs just feel around each other.
So, do you guys dislike other INFPs sometimes? Do you think it has anything to do with enneagram/other underlying personality theories or just plain ole immaturity?
