Hi everybody, I know there’s a ton of information on here about this topic, but I know it’s been helpful for me to read people’s individual advice, as it has helped me gain a greater understanding of how other people function, not just as a type, but as individuals. So, I went ahead and wrote a rather comprehensive guide about myself hoping that this would be useful for other types to learn more about how I function. I hope someone out there finds this as useful as I’ve found many posts on here. I don’t mean this to be a guide for dating and understanding all ISTJs, as much as I hope that it gives insight into understanding me, but I think I’m a pretty normal ISTJ, so some of this might be helpful as far as understanding the type as well.
Hope this is helpful,
Joe
Dear non-ISTJ,
Let’s start at the beginning. So you just met me—a nice, solid, average, somewhat nerdy ISTJ guy—and you’d like to get to know me better, but you’re not quite sure how I feel about you. Take it from me; if I keep finding time to talk to you and I seem at least a little bit happy when I interact with you, I like you. It’s really that simple. Don’t overthink me. I’m kind of like Bert from Mary Poppins; I talk to who I like, and like who I talk to. But don’t expect some sort of nervous excitement from me—I’m just not wired that way. Unless I’m absolutely head-over-heels in love with you and completely comfortable around you, I’m not likely to be bubbly and exuberant. So don’t assume that just because I’m not gushing with emotion, I’m not into you. Quick caveat here: I will also find time to talk to people whom I find to be interesting, fun, intelligent, or who just bring out a good side of me. I may not feel any romantic feelings towards you, just because I’m talking to you all the time. I might just find you interesting. Don’t lose heart though (pun intended), if I like you in an impersonal manner, you’ve got a great chance at making that into a deeper relationship if you want things to take that direction. So be encouraged—if I’m talking to you and seem to enjoy it at least a little bit, you’ve got more than a fighting chance. I don’t tend to fall in love with people quickly; it’s a process that will take some time. But the good news is once you’ve got me hooked, you don’t have to worry about me running off on you unless something really serious (think death) ends the relationship.
Anyway, so you’ve made first contact with me and I keep talking to you and seem to like you, but I’m just not making the move. And you’re sitting there thinking: “What the heck is up with this guy? What’s he waiting for?” Well, here’s what I’m thinking:
First of all, making the decision to begin a relationship is one of the most serious decisions I’m going to make. I put endless thought into all sorts of everyday decisions. I think and plan everything I do. I might spend days mentally deliberating the most trivial of issues. Now think about how much thoughtful introspection goes into beginning a romantic relationship with someone. Yeah, I’m crazy, I know. I’ll spend weeks debating the pros and cons of decisions of minor decisions, so it’s going to take me a very long time to decide whether I want a relationship with you or not. Chances are, I’m still thinking about it. Just a quick remark here: while I try to think rationally about decisions that might be emotionally driven for other people, this doesn’t mean that I don’t have feelings. I have them to abundance. I just tend to block them out when I’m making an important decision for the sake of retaining my objectivity. This is what makes me adept at making difficult decisions, but it also tends to make me look like an emotionless robot. I’m not though—I have incredibly strong feelings inside—I just choose not to allow those feelings to determine my course of action. I have a heart; I just tend to avoid using it to make my decisions. You might say I’m prudent to a fault. Also, if you feel like this approach towards deciding to deepen a relationship is decidedly unromantic, you’re probably correct (at least using the societal definition of romantic)—but feel comforted in that I won’t allow the relationship to deepen the unless I have very real feelings for you. I don’t make decisions with my heart, but my heart will inform my mind of my feelings, in which case I will choose to advance the relationship if there aren’t any other serious issues that I observe that would give me reason to doubt the wisdom of doing so (i.e. serious character flaws, a bad reputation, etc.). In summary then, I do have feelings. I don’t let feelings make my decisions. But I will take those feelings into account when I make my decision. All this takes a while. So be patient and don’t try to push me into things. If I truly like you, just keep being yourself—it’ll work out, don’t worry. Worrying’s my specialty, let me handle it for you...
And here’s the other thing there’s a good chance I’m thinking: I’m thinking about what you’re thinking! I’m not necessarily self-confident when it comes to relationships. Really, I’m confident in everything but relationships. It’s not that I have bad self-esteem; it’s just that I tend to be afraid of rejection and have absolutely no social perception and intuition. I almost guarantee I have idea how you feel about me unless you tell me. I may possibly (I’m rather doubtful about this) notice that you tend to be around me a lot, that you seem to be happy around me, that you make eye contact with me regularly, but even if I do notice it, I’m going to attribute it to any other reason but you liking me in a romantic manner. I’m worse at making decisions based solely off of intuition than Brandon Weeden is at playing quarterback. It’s not necessarily that I’m blind (I tend to observe everything); it’s just that I never presume, and never make my decisions (especially serious decisions) on non-factually based observation. I need the hard facts. Otherwise, it’ll be extremely difficult for me to feel confident enough that I’ve interpreted your hint to me that it’s okay to take the next step. I’m going to analyze every single action you make, but unless there’s some serious factual basis that I can use I’m not going to accept my analysis as an accurate portrayal of your feelings—in which case I will keep overanalyzing every single thing you do, wondering if you really like me or not. You may have made things extremely clear hinting, but I probably still have no idea and even if I do, I still doubt my intuition so much that it’d take an awful lot to make me feel confident enough to take action based on that intuition. Moral of the story—I never trust my intuition, so I don't pick up hints as well as some other people. So keep that in mind.
Alright, so you've sent that message but I'm still not making the move. You're getting impatient waiting for a terribly long time, and you’re getting frustrated because I’m not doing anything. Here’s what to do. First, if you’re pretty confident I like you, and I’m not making a move, set me up for an opportunity. Say something like “Hey, [ideally some common friends] and I are [doing a certain activity/going to a certain restaurant/etc.] at a [a specific date], I’d love it if you’d come along with us. Check your calendar!” Don’t make it look like a date and don’t put me in the position where I feel obligated to decide on the spot, just make it clear that you’re going to do something fun and you’d enjoy it if I came along. If you haven’t given me your number yet, give it to me now and tell me to shoot you a text when I know whether I’m open or not. This kills two birds with one stone—you’ve engaged me in a non-threatening and natural manner by giving me both a way out and time to decide, and you’ve laid the groundwork for deepening the relationship through one of my more comfortable means of communication. It’s often much easier for me to communicate via the written word than it is verbally (it’s not that I’m uncomfortable talking, it’s just that when it comes to emotions, it takes longer for me to get used to verbal expression). If an approach like this doesn’t work, another option would be to try and find some ulterior and innocent motive for obtaining my number. Then, text or email away about fun things or things you find interesting, and if I’m interested in you, I’ll keep things going. I’m a traditionalist, and it’s very important to me to feel like the initiator and the leader in a relationship, I’m just terrible at it and sometimes need a lot of encouragement. Try to avoid asking me out directly, but you have all sorts of leeway as long as I can still persuade myself I’m doing things the right way. After a while, I’ll make that move you were waiting for.
Also, just something to remember in regards to wooing me—I may seem icy, but that ice is often a lot thinner than you’d imagine, and often it’s most easily broken by means of more distant forms of communication that we’re more comfortable with. I plan everything and feel most comfortable communicating in ways that allow me plenty of time to plan what I have to say. Sometimes texting, emailing, chatting, etc., is the easiest way to break through to me. There’s a good chance though, that if you adopt this tactic, I’m going to ask you out for the first time via written communication, so keep that in mind. Also as something to remember—you may observe a disconnect between my emotional openness via written communication and when I’m physically in your presence. Don’t worry about that; I’m just growing more comfortable with you. Take my communication via the written word at face value. I mean exactly what I write, I just haven’t come to the point where I’m equally comfortable expressing my feelings through words. I might tell you I love you through text before I say the words. But I mean it all the same. And the verbal expression will come; it just takes time for me. In the meantime, keep focusing on making me feel comfortable.
Oh, and lastly, if I’m still not making a move, keep the group mutual activities thing up for a while. If you have to call in a few favors from friends to keep things from looking like a date, do it. If you want me to make a move, do whatever you can to make me feel comfortable with you, because that’s the only way that move is going to happen.
Okay, so let’s skip to the part where the relationship has begun.
A few things to remember when you’re dealing with me:
First, always be clear exactly as to what you need/want from the relationship and the situation. I know for a lot of you, this takes a lot of the romance out of doing things…it means so much more for someone to notice your needs and take action without you asking, right? Well, if that’s something you need from a relationship, I strongly encourage you to avoid dating me. I’ll do my best, but I’m horrible at sensing what you are feeling. If you don’t tell me outright, I very likely don't know what you’re thinking and have absolutely no idea how to help you. But here’s the key thing to remember: it’s not because I don’t care. That idea almost bears repeating. I do care. I really do. I just have the worst time in the world knowing what people are feeling unless they tell me, and I don’t normally do well when it comes to knowing how to help that person. If you’re having a problem and all you want me to do is just listen and be supportive, tell me—don’t expect me to just know. Say these words: “Dear, I’m going through a hard time right now with _____, but I just want you to listen and be supportive.” If you want a different response, or you want more than that, just add whatever you desire on to that request. I think you’ll find I will respond extremely well to a straight-forward approach like that. I love to help people and I love to be there for those I love, it’s just that I’m terrible at knowing what people want unless they tell me. So please, tell me the problem and tell me how to respond—not only will I come through for you every time, you’ll be amazed by the lengths I’ll go to in order to help you. I’m a duty-fulfiller for a reason, and I’ll go to the ends of the earth to fulfill a duty like that to someone I love. In summary, make it a top priority to always be clear exactly what you’re looking for in terms of emotional support, because otherwise I have no idea what to do. Trust me, I won’t take it the wrong way, and I won’t feel insulted because you’re stating the obvious to me. The unspoken need might seem obvious to you and everyone else, 9 times out of 10 I have no idea it even exists. And 99 times out of a 100, I don't know how to respond.
Second, remember and observe how I show my affection for people. It’s really not that complicated, or that hard to see once you know what to look for. I will show you that I love you by doing things like calling you when I told you I would, being on time when we meet, helping you with various tasks, and providing for you. I sometimes equate duty-fulfilling with love. I don’t tend to be emotionally effusive from a verbal standpoint—I tend to see that as a lesser and more superficial way of demonstrating my affection—and I value authenticity above all things. And because I value authenticity above all things, I generally display my affections through actions rather than words. Please try to remember this when you feel like I don’t seem to be as loving from a verbal standpoint as other men. It’s not that I don’t love you; it’s just that I dislike demonstrating my love for you in that manner. Also, this also goes both ways for me. Because I show my love to you through keeping my commitments to you, it’s very important to me that you keep your commitments to me. I tend to associate failure to complete a duty with a lack of true affection and I will feel hurt (I may not say anything, but I will be hurt nonetheless), if you knowingly and without good reason, fail to fulfill your commitments to me. If you don’t think you will be able to fulfill certain promises to me, avoid making them. If you say you are going to call or meet me somewhere at 10:00, do your absolute best to call me or meet me there at 10:00, even if that means setting an alarm on your watch to help you remember. It won’t bother me that you had to set an alarm to remember because that shows me that you cared enough to plan ahead to spend time with me. I plan everything out, and I take that Boy Scout mentality to another level when I’m in a romantic relationship by planning and thinking about everything—so nothing makes me feel better than to know that the person I love was doing the same.
Third, do your best to engage with me on topics that I’m interested in (be assured, I’ll reciprocate). This can be done in in all sorts of different ways, but it’s very important to me, not that you’re the most brilliant astrophysicist out there, but that you care enough me to be interested in my interests. Here’s the great thing though—I’m extremely forgiving if I can see that you’re trying to learn. You don’t have to know everything—in fact, I like it when you don’t because there’s nothing I love more than to explain things to you. I don’t think you’re stupid for asking questions, because I love answering them! It makes me feel great and reinforces me because I know two things are true then: (1) You care about me (because you care about my interests), and (2) You are authentic. I love authentic people so much more than I love smart people. You don’t have to be brilliant or “book-smart” to be with me, you just need to show that you value my interests enough to interest yourself in and learn about them. But if there’s one thing I can’t stress enough, it’s to avoid pretending to know something you really don’t. I might have no idea when it comes to feelings, but I can see pretentiousness a mile off and it repulses me to no end. The great thing to know though is that there is no faster way to my heart than to ask me questions—even stupid ones. I love to know that my opinion is valued and appreciated. Oh and on that note, if I take a long time to explain something to you, make sure you listen and don’t get distracted. I’m going to be forgiving because that’s my nature, but it’ll hurt me to know that you weren’t sufficiently interested in what I had to say to stay involved. So do your best to be attentive and I can assure you, I’ll be attentive to you when you have something to say (that’s pretty much what I’m best at). Anyway, basically if you want to win my heart, do two things: (1) Ask me questions, and (2) Be yourself.
Isn’t it nice how simple I am in what I’m looking for in a woman? And once you get me, I’m not letting you go. Ever.
I love you more than anything in this world, dear. I can’t wait to meet you.
Sincerely,
--An ISTJ Guy
Hope this is helpful,
Joe
Dear non-ISTJ,
Let’s start at the beginning. So you just met me—a nice, solid, average, somewhat nerdy ISTJ guy—and you’d like to get to know me better, but you’re not quite sure how I feel about you. Take it from me; if I keep finding time to talk to you and I seem at least a little bit happy when I interact with you, I like you. It’s really that simple. Don’t overthink me. I’m kind of like Bert from Mary Poppins; I talk to who I like, and like who I talk to. But don’t expect some sort of nervous excitement from me—I’m just not wired that way. Unless I’m absolutely head-over-heels in love with you and completely comfortable around you, I’m not likely to be bubbly and exuberant. So don’t assume that just because I’m not gushing with emotion, I’m not into you. Quick caveat here: I will also find time to talk to people whom I find to be interesting, fun, intelligent, or who just bring out a good side of me. I may not feel any romantic feelings towards you, just because I’m talking to you all the time. I might just find you interesting. Don’t lose heart though (pun intended), if I like you in an impersonal manner, you’ve got a great chance at making that into a deeper relationship if you want things to take that direction. So be encouraged—if I’m talking to you and seem to enjoy it at least a little bit, you’ve got more than a fighting chance. I don’t tend to fall in love with people quickly; it’s a process that will take some time. But the good news is once you’ve got me hooked, you don’t have to worry about me running off on you unless something really serious (think death) ends the relationship.
Anyway, so you’ve made first contact with me and I keep talking to you and seem to like you, but I’m just not making the move. And you’re sitting there thinking: “What the heck is up with this guy? What’s he waiting for?” Well, here’s what I’m thinking:
First of all, making the decision to begin a relationship is one of the most serious decisions I’m going to make. I put endless thought into all sorts of everyday decisions. I think and plan everything I do. I might spend days mentally deliberating the most trivial of issues. Now think about how much thoughtful introspection goes into beginning a romantic relationship with someone. Yeah, I’m crazy, I know. I’ll spend weeks debating the pros and cons of decisions of minor decisions, so it’s going to take me a very long time to decide whether I want a relationship with you or not. Chances are, I’m still thinking about it. Just a quick remark here: while I try to think rationally about decisions that might be emotionally driven for other people, this doesn’t mean that I don’t have feelings. I have them to abundance. I just tend to block them out when I’m making an important decision for the sake of retaining my objectivity. This is what makes me adept at making difficult decisions, but it also tends to make me look like an emotionless robot. I’m not though—I have incredibly strong feelings inside—I just choose not to allow those feelings to determine my course of action. I have a heart; I just tend to avoid using it to make my decisions. You might say I’m prudent to a fault. Also, if you feel like this approach towards deciding to deepen a relationship is decidedly unromantic, you’re probably correct (at least using the societal definition of romantic)—but feel comforted in that I won’t allow the relationship to deepen the unless I have very real feelings for you. I don’t make decisions with my heart, but my heart will inform my mind of my feelings, in which case I will choose to advance the relationship if there aren’t any other serious issues that I observe that would give me reason to doubt the wisdom of doing so (i.e. serious character flaws, a bad reputation, etc.). In summary then, I do have feelings. I don’t let feelings make my decisions. But I will take those feelings into account when I make my decision. All this takes a while. So be patient and don’t try to push me into things. If I truly like you, just keep being yourself—it’ll work out, don’t worry. Worrying’s my specialty, let me handle it for you...
And here’s the other thing there’s a good chance I’m thinking: I’m thinking about what you’re thinking! I’m not necessarily self-confident when it comes to relationships. Really, I’m confident in everything but relationships. It’s not that I have bad self-esteem; it’s just that I tend to be afraid of rejection and have absolutely no social perception and intuition. I almost guarantee I have idea how you feel about me unless you tell me. I may possibly (I’m rather doubtful about this) notice that you tend to be around me a lot, that you seem to be happy around me, that you make eye contact with me regularly, but even if I do notice it, I’m going to attribute it to any other reason but you liking me in a romantic manner. I’m worse at making decisions based solely off of intuition than Brandon Weeden is at playing quarterback. It’s not necessarily that I’m blind (I tend to observe everything); it’s just that I never presume, and never make my decisions (especially serious decisions) on non-factually based observation. I need the hard facts. Otherwise, it’ll be extremely difficult for me to feel confident enough that I’ve interpreted your hint to me that it’s okay to take the next step. I’m going to analyze every single action you make, but unless there’s some serious factual basis that I can use I’m not going to accept my analysis as an accurate portrayal of your feelings—in which case I will keep overanalyzing every single thing you do, wondering if you really like me or not. You may have made things extremely clear hinting, but I probably still have no idea and even if I do, I still doubt my intuition so much that it’d take an awful lot to make me feel confident enough to take action based on that intuition. Moral of the story—I never trust my intuition, so I don't pick up hints as well as some other people. So keep that in mind.
Alright, so you've sent that message but I'm still not making the move. You're getting impatient waiting for a terribly long time, and you’re getting frustrated because I’m not doing anything. Here’s what to do. First, if you’re pretty confident I like you, and I’m not making a move, set me up for an opportunity. Say something like “Hey, [ideally some common friends] and I are [doing a certain activity/going to a certain restaurant/etc.] at a [a specific date], I’d love it if you’d come along with us. Check your calendar!” Don’t make it look like a date and don’t put me in the position where I feel obligated to decide on the spot, just make it clear that you’re going to do something fun and you’d enjoy it if I came along. If you haven’t given me your number yet, give it to me now and tell me to shoot you a text when I know whether I’m open or not. This kills two birds with one stone—you’ve engaged me in a non-threatening and natural manner by giving me both a way out and time to decide, and you’ve laid the groundwork for deepening the relationship through one of my more comfortable means of communication. It’s often much easier for me to communicate via the written word than it is verbally (it’s not that I’m uncomfortable talking, it’s just that when it comes to emotions, it takes longer for me to get used to verbal expression). If an approach like this doesn’t work, another option would be to try and find some ulterior and innocent motive for obtaining my number. Then, text or email away about fun things or things you find interesting, and if I’m interested in you, I’ll keep things going. I’m a traditionalist, and it’s very important to me to feel like the initiator and the leader in a relationship, I’m just terrible at it and sometimes need a lot of encouragement. Try to avoid asking me out directly, but you have all sorts of leeway as long as I can still persuade myself I’m doing things the right way. After a while, I’ll make that move you were waiting for.
Also, just something to remember in regards to wooing me—I may seem icy, but that ice is often a lot thinner than you’d imagine, and often it’s most easily broken by means of more distant forms of communication that we’re more comfortable with. I plan everything and feel most comfortable communicating in ways that allow me plenty of time to plan what I have to say. Sometimes texting, emailing, chatting, etc., is the easiest way to break through to me. There’s a good chance though, that if you adopt this tactic, I’m going to ask you out for the first time via written communication, so keep that in mind. Also as something to remember—you may observe a disconnect between my emotional openness via written communication and when I’m physically in your presence. Don’t worry about that; I’m just growing more comfortable with you. Take my communication via the written word at face value. I mean exactly what I write, I just haven’t come to the point where I’m equally comfortable expressing my feelings through words. I might tell you I love you through text before I say the words. But I mean it all the same. And the verbal expression will come; it just takes time for me. In the meantime, keep focusing on making me feel comfortable.
Oh, and lastly, if I’m still not making a move, keep the group mutual activities thing up for a while. If you have to call in a few favors from friends to keep things from looking like a date, do it. If you want me to make a move, do whatever you can to make me feel comfortable with you, because that’s the only way that move is going to happen.
Okay, so let’s skip to the part where the relationship has begun.
A few things to remember when you’re dealing with me:
First, always be clear exactly as to what you need/want from the relationship and the situation. I know for a lot of you, this takes a lot of the romance out of doing things…it means so much more for someone to notice your needs and take action without you asking, right? Well, if that’s something you need from a relationship, I strongly encourage you to avoid dating me. I’ll do my best, but I’m horrible at sensing what you are feeling. If you don’t tell me outright, I very likely don't know what you’re thinking and have absolutely no idea how to help you. But here’s the key thing to remember: it’s not because I don’t care. That idea almost bears repeating. I do care. I really do. I just have the worst time in the world knowing what people are feeling unless they tell me, and I don’t normally do well when it comes to knowing how to help that person. If you’re having a problem and all you want me to do is just listen and be supportive, tell me—don’t expect me to just know. Say these words: “Dear, I’m going through a hard time right now with _____, but I just want you to listen and be supportive.” If you want a different response, or you want more than that, just add whatever you desire on to that request. I think you’ll find I will respond extremely well to a straight-forward approach like that. I love to help people and I love to be there for those I love, it’s just that I’m terrible at knowing what people want unless they tell me. So please, tell me the problem and tell me how to respond—not only will I come through for you every time, you’ll be amazed by the lengths I’ll go to in order to help you. I’m a duty-fulfiller for a reason, and I’ll go to the ends of the earth to fulfill a duty like that to someone I love. In summary, make it a top priority to always be clear exactly what you’re looking for in terms of emotional support, because otherwise I have no idea what to do. Trust me, I won’t take it the wrong way, and I won’t feel insulted because you’re stating the obvious to me. The unspoken need might seem obvious to you and everyone else, 9 times out of 10 I have no idea it even exists. And 99 times out of a 100, I don't know how to respond.
Second, remember and observe how I show my affection for people. It’s really not that complicated, or that hard to see once you know what to look for. I will show you that I love you by doing things like calling you when I told you I would, being on time when we meet, helping you with various tasks, and providing for you. I sometimes equate duty-fulfilling with love. I don’t tend to be emotionally effusive from a verbal standpoint—I tend to see that as a lesser and more superficial way of demonstrating my affection—and I value authenticity above all things. And because I value authenticity above all things, I generally display my affections through actions rather than words. Please try to remember this when you feel like I don’t seem to be as loving from a verbal standpoint as other men. It’s not that I don’t love you; it’s just that I dislike demonstrating my love for you in that manner. Also, this also goes both ways for me. Because I show my love to you through keeping my commitments to you, it’s very important to me that you keep your commitments to me. I tend to associate failure to complete a duty with a lack of true affection and I will feel hurt (I may not say anything, but I will be hurt nonetheless), if you knowingly and without good reason, fail to fulfill your commitments to me. If you don’t think you will be able to fulfill certain promises to me, avoid making them. If you say you are going to call or meet me somewhere at 10:00, do your absolute best to call me or meet me there at 10:00, even if that means setting an alarm on your watch to help you remember. It won’t bother me that you had to set an alarm to remember because that shows me that you cared enough to plan ahead to spend time with me. I plan everything out, and I take that Boy Scout mentality to another level when I’m in a romantic relationship by planning and thinking about everything—so nothing makes me feel better than to know that the person I love was doing the same.
Third, do your best to engage with me on topics that I’m interested in (be assured, I’ll reciprocate). This can be done in in all sorts of different ways, but it’s very important to me, not that you’re the most brilliant astrophysicist out there, but that you care enough me to be interested in my interests. Here’s the great thing though—I’m extremely forgiving if I can see that you’re trying to learn. You don’t have to know everything—in fact, I like it when you don’t because there’s nothing I love more than to explain things to you. I don’t think you’re stupid for asking questions, because I love answering them! It makes me feel great and reinforces me because I know two things are true then: (1) You care about me (because you care about my interests), and (2) You are authentic. I love authentic people so much more than I love smart people. You don’t have to be brilliant or “book-smart” to be with me, you just need to show that you value my interests enough to interest yourself in and learn about them. But if there’s one thing I can’t stress enough, it’s to avoid pretending to know something you really don’t. I might have no idea when it comes to feelings, but I can see pretentiousness a mile off and it repulses me to no end. The great thing to know though is that there is no faster way to my heart than to ask me questions—even stupid ones. I love to know that my opinion is valued and appreciated. Oh and on that note, if I take a long time to explain something to you, make sure you listen and don’t get distracted. I’m going to be forgiving because that’s my nature, but it’ll hurt me to know that you weren’t sufficiently interested in what I had to say to stay involved. So do your best to be attentive and I can assure you, I’ll be attentive to you when you have something to say (that’s pretty much what I’m best at). Anyway, basically if you want to win my heart, do two things: (1) Ask me questions, and (2) Be yourself.
Isn’t it nice how simple I am in what I’m looking for in a woman? And once you get me, I’m not letting you go. Ever.
I love you more than anything in this world, dear. I can’t wait to meet you.
Sincerely,
--An ISTJ Guy
